5 thoughts on “Learn to Forgive Yourself No Matter What

  • April 8, 2015 at 6:19 pm

    Love this! Thank you for making it more clear as to why we need to forgive ourselves. I am 46 and just barely starting to scratch the surface of the importance of self compassion. I never really understood before, but it is essential in living a peace filled life. I am working on it! đŸ™‚

    • April 9, 2015 at 3:48 am

      Hi its ok to say forgive yourself BUT its really understanding why we blame ourselves for everything that goes wrong in maybe our own life or others. I thank you for saying all this. For over 50 years I have blamed myself for enduring a abusive marriage& there fore putting my children through a sad life .It was not till I met someone who showed me it was not my fault. BUT Cause & affect, that I started to forgive myself that was the start for me really, putting myself first for once in my whole life & not others. Not that I am selfish, could never be, but forgave myself& started to like myself for what I had achieved & who I was. Thank you for your wisdom

  • April 9, 2015 at 8:28 am

    Thank you, Elisha, for this wise and kind article! It was so soothing for me to read first thing this morning, and the ideas are ones I will be working with for at least the next few months. Self-compassion and loving kindness practices are my primary practices and have brought me such healing!

  • April 9, 2015 at 9:34 am

    Sometimes we have examples in our early lives of NOT forgiving ourselves — learned from parents. It can be very hard to overcome what we learned then.

  • April 9, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    I wonder if adherents of Boko Haram practice self-forgiveness, seeing the futility of being stuck in self blame and shame.

    In all seriousness, self-forgiveness as a means of moving forward is great, but it shouldn’t be used as a get out of jail free card that precludes trying to reverse the bad karma of past intententionally harmful acts.


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