5 thoughts on “The Mindful Path through Shyness: An Interview with Steve Flowers

  • October 28, 2009 at 1:21 pm

    Not the same old “shy people are self-absorbed” mantra! Has this bunch of platitudes ever been any use to shy people? What we need are practical suggestions that we can go out and use.

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  • October 28, 2009 at 2:56 pm

    After reading Steve’s book I can say that it is full of practical suggestions. Worth checking out.

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  • January 31, 2010 at 11:09 am

    “…it’s not how you are or are not that creates suffering – it’s only your point of view that creates suffering.”

    This really rings true for me. Changing my view of myself has changed my life for the better, in ways I could never have imagined. I still need to keep ‘working’ at it, though. It’s all too easy to slip back into old unhelpful ways of thinking, otherwise.

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    • February 12, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      I first began hearing of Mindfulness about two years ago. Being from the Bible Belt (Florida), I was not able to break through the spiritual sentries set up by ‘That Olde Time Religion’. Since moving to the Pacific Northwest, I have been set down into another spiritual climate altogether and have begun to taste the freedom that mindfulness offers. But, being life long painfully shy has left its scars and healing often seems beyond my capacity. I love playing music. Acoustic guitar and I am a wanna be songwriter (I know, who isn’t). My thoughts (so often coming in the form of insidious mind fog) keep me enslaved and unable to even sign up for a songwriter meet-up group. I realize that no one, not even God, holds the key to this prison door but myself, but maybe I misplace the key or maybe I am not turning it with enough force or maybe this key works for everybody but my particular ilk. It is altogether discouraging to find fleeting moments of freedom only to come crashing back to earth moments (literally) later. But, I have tasted enough freedom in mindfulness that I feel completely changed. But, I feel like barely a toddler and I am far more apt to crash into a coffee table instead of racing into the kitchen. The kitchen is so desirable and I have found myself getting there with great fluidity of motion using mindfulness techniques, but now those same techniques have failed me a bit too many times and I fear they are just another brick wall that I have run into. Anybody capisci???

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  • August 8, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    I haven’t read the book, but I did, years ago, attend Dr. Phillip Zimbardo’s “Shyness Clinic” at Stanford University, and while they had all kinds of good advice on how one can overcome shyness, they couldn’t put words into my mouth. And therein lies the problem. I, quite literally, couldn’t approach a woman and strike up a conversation if my life depended on it.

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