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Mindful Parenting

While there may be many books out there on parenting, there really isn’t any definitive guide because every baby and child is unique and all parents come with our own unique baggage from childhood and genetics.

4 thoughts on “Mindful Parenting

  • April 11, 2009 at 10:59 am

    So much is written for parents providing good information that will help them in raising their children. In my book, “The IKE Disease,” I encourge teenagers to do something for themselves. The problems teenagers face are actually symptoms of the real problem which is disobedience to parents. As a high school guidance counselor I can say of all the students I have known, who made it their busniness to disobey their parents, suffered great hardship. For your information, IKE, is initials for the words, “I Know Everything.” Thank you for your interest in my comments.

    God Bless!!!

    Roger D. Casterline

  • June 4, 2009 at 6:02 pm

    Dear Dr. Elisha, I stumbled upon this website only a few days ago, and I am impressed. I am still catching up. Curiously, I have found myself avoiding this article even if I have children…I wonder why? Interesting, because obviously my parenting has not been great, or better, it has not met my own expectations, or what and how i want to be as a parent.

    I somehow think that all at least mothers tend to know when they are not getting it right. Do you agree?

    I was a wonderful other when my kids were babies and very young. Now I have problems for mostly two reasons, I think.

    The first one is that I only had sisters and my father was mostly absent, and now I have boys and I am learning about boys along with them. Then, my sisters and I were largely raised on guilt and not with discipline. We were expected to know everything, and although I was a well behaved child and teenager who did not sneak out of the house at night and get pregnant, it felt like a great burden to always having to be sensitive at all times to …anyway. So, I am not good at setting limits and discipline.

    The other is, that for the past many years, I have had either trauma and/or physical illness one after another, as well as PTSD.

    I actually think that what was more traumatic than most anything to me was watching myself through the eyes of my kids and imagining how they would find me dead one morning…and just, watching myself not being able to feel them as much as I would like, or be in tune with then. The best thing was, or the greatest gift was, that my younger son’s(13) father was such a wonderful father for all this time and even before and still. (We never married and I never pressured him in any way, and the more I appreciate him and the more I thank him, and the more I encourage him to take breaks, the more he does.)

    My point to you is, that your articles are really very wonderful and they stick out here on the internet. usually, i am totally bored and disappointed with most of what I read. I also feel with you like you are really there. So, thanks, kat

    PS: I also appreciate that you make spelling mistakes! makes you more real.

  • September 11, 2010 at 7:07 pm

    I absolutely love this article. I am a parent of a lovely little boy of 1 year and 9 months, and a new babby of 7 weeks. I am breastfeeding the youngest. One of my main concerns is whether or not i am giving Felix, the elder, enough concentrated attention. I feel as if i cannot most of the time. However, what you say in your article is so reassuring that it is important not to feel guilty about this and instead to be present when you can be. I am learning mindfulness re myself and my emotions. This has provoked exactly the kind of response to Felix that you have noted – you don’t try to change the way they are feeling i.e. make them smile or laugh when it’s a situation in which it is natural for them to cry. I always used to try to make Felix feel better. Learning to tune into my own lesser emotions without judging them is enabling me to allow Felix to feel his emotions and my not feel bad on his behalf. This is sooooooo important. I loved this article. Thank you


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