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The True Upside of Hard Times

buried and planted

I often say if there’s two things in life that we can’t evade aside from death and taxes, it’s stress and pain. Suffering is a part of life, but the mindset we layer over it makes all the difference.

I have so many examples in my life, and you may as well, where a difficult time was upon me and that very time was the seed which brought on the growth of the next moment.

The reality is, we never truly know whether an experience in life is good or bad because we don’t know what’s going to happen next.

In Uncovering Happiness I write about how the deepest, darkest moment of my life was exactly what inevitably opened my mind to seeking out support that led me to where I am today. It was this very experience, and many more like it, that led me to seek out mindfulness, which inevitably led to me being interested in key happiness components such as compassion and altruism.

I felt like I had been buried in that moment, but really, I had just been planted and now aware of the blooming.

To go even deeper, while we can learn to savor the blooming (a key skill for happiness), it is impermanent. The bloom will come and go and our work is to learn how to be grateful for the time where our lives are in bloom and be graceful during the more difficult times understanding these times are an opportunity for more seeds of mindfulness, self-compassion and grace to be planted.

There isn’t a limit to your ability to plant seeds and water them during good times and bad. The only limit is in our minds and as Henry Ford once said, “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.”

Thoughts aren’t facts, even the ones that say they are, so don’t let anyone tell you (including your mind) that you can’t learn to ride the waves of life with ease and grace.

Just remember in those difficult moments, you think you’re buried, but perhaps you’ve just been planted. Apply self-compassion, be patient, and savor┬áthe beauty of the inevitable bloom.

Warmly,

Elisha Goldstein, PhD

The True Upside of Hard Times

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is creator of the six month online program A Course in Mindful Living, author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler: Quick Exercises to Calm Your Mind, the premier eCourse Basics of Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join The Now Effect Community for free Daily Now Moments and a Weekly Newsletter. Dr. Goldstein is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles.


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Goldstein, E. (2016). The True Upside of Hard Times. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 24, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2016/02/the-true-upside-of-hard-times/

 

Last updated: 9 Feb 2016
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 9 Feb 2016
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