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STOP – This Blog May Save Your Life Today

Take two minutes to read this blog post; it may truly be the thing today that can save your life.

First before we begin, watch this surprising video below (runtime 1:47).

The National Safety Council says there are currently 1.6 million accidents per year for texting while driving.

How could it not be true that the way many of us engage with Smartphones while in the car is not responsible for a rising amount of death tolls and injuries?

To some extent, it’s important to understand how the brain science may be working in the case of driving with the phone.

The routine of checking the phone has become such a habit now that the procedure has been soft wired in our brains after thousands of repetitions. We no longer need to think for a millisecond about the intersection between waiting and grabbing the phone. The cue is there and we go for it.

Then, the phone hits our reward system, where if we check it, we may get a message or some interesting information off a website. This likely spikes our dopamine – a motivational chemical in the brain that shoots up and says “check it, check it and check it some more.”

The prefrontal cortex – which has a hand in impulse control, is clearly offline as most people have very little of that when it comes to driving while handling their phones.

So, this tells us, like with alcohol and drugs, our brains have developed an intricate and automatic relationship with our Smartphones where the communication happens so quickly that we have very little say in it. “Just Say No” is not that probable.

With a little space we can see why handling our phones in the car ups our chances for accidents and fatalities.

What are our options?

  1. Remove it – One of my students recognized this and told me that she now drives with her phone in her trunk because she recognizes how little control she has. I thought that was a brilliant idea.
  2. Turn it off – This is another option, for the length of the car ride, you can turn the phone off, or put it in the glove compartment and only use it for phone calls if you have blue tooth.
  3. Bring mindfulness to it – This is a third and very interesting option to experiment with. As you sit in the car, take a moment to practice STOP – where you Stop, Take a deep breath, Observe how you’re feeling, physically, emotionally and mentally and then Proceed by asking yourself, “How do I want to be with my phone on this car ride?” Then try it out as an experiment and see what you notice.

At the end of the day, this is a new social relationship we’re still in the process of developing and figuring out what is optimal for each one of us.

One thing we do know is that if you have the thought “This doesn’t apply to me,” this is your mind playing tricks on you. As the saying goes, “Don’t believe everything you think.”

It only takes a second, please share this with anyone you know who texts, chats, messages or surfs the webs while driving.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

STOP – This Blog May Save Your Life Today

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is creator of the six month online program A Course in Mindful Living, author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler: Quick Exercises to Calm Your Mind, the premier eCourse Basics of Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join The Now Effect Community for free Daily Now Moments and a Weekly Newsletter. Dr. Goldstein is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles.

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Goldstein, E. (2014). STOP – This Blog May Save Your Life Today. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 4, 2020, from


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