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Learn from the Dying, Live without Regrets

roseWhile regrets are things that most of us don’t want, they can actually be good. They are teachers from the past for the decisions of today and tomorrow. They tell us what we would have liked to have done differently if we had known then what we know now. One of the greatest regrets people who are dying have is wishing they had been more present to life to have made different choices like not being so focused on other’s expectations, spending more time with close relationships, not working so hard, having the courage to express feelings, and not buying into the negativity so much and choosing happiness.

But life is routine and routine is resistance to choice. But that can all change for us right now.

To live in the future without regrets, think about what in life are you allowing to be routine? As soon as we see the routine, we step into a space of awareness, a “choice point” to live the life we want to live, without regrets.

Have you allowed…

Your relationships to become routine?

Living up to other’s expectations to become routine?

The kiss of your loved ones to become routine?

The suppression of your feelings to become routine?

The sight and smell of a rose to become routine?

The taste of good food to become routine?

Working too hard to become routine?

Reading the words on this screen to become routine?


The fact is we can stop, take a deep breath and choose right now for life not to be routine, we can choose to see the wonders of everyday life.


You can choose…

To stay in touch with friendships and family. To not settle for surface connections and make quality connections with people.

To make the cliché “Stop and smell the roses” a real thing in your life.

To stop living up to other’s expectations and begin living life on your terms.

To take breaks from work at times to tend to other things that matter.

To express your feelings if to stand up for yourself or others in the face of injustice or tell a person, “I love you.”

To relate to the difficult things in life differently and incline your mind toward the good in life.

To take the words in this blog post to heart and see how to put it into practice in your life.


 In 365 Daily Now Moments it is written:

Robert Brault said, “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

What are those little things you can be on the lookout for today? A hug, a smile, the functionality of your body?

Sometimes it’s good to sweat the small stuff.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

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Learn from the Dying, Live without Regrets

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is creator of the six month online program A Course in Mindful Living, author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler: Quick Exercises to Calm Your Mind, the premier eCourse Basics of Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join The Now Effect Community for free Daily Now Moments and a Weekly Newsletter. Dr. Goldstein is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles.

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Goldstein, E. (2013). Learn from the Dying, Live without Regrets. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 27, 2020, from


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