advertisement
Home » Blogs » Mindfulness and Psychotherapy » 3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion

3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion

littleheartcrpdIt’s a dreaded day for some and a joyous for others. Whether we like it or not, Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Since the 11th century it’s been a time representing romantic love and by the 15th century it was a day to express love with flowers and greeting cards of some kind. But maybe there’s even another evolution that this day can take. Can it be that we can include romantic love but even make this day a day of greater meaning that transcends and includes romantic love?

In my mind it’s the case that all people, if not all beings, at the core want to feel like they belong and that they’re loved.

Why not make Valentine’s Day a day for all people in the greater relationship of humanity. This is a day where if you’re in a relationship you can have your romantic version and also a wider Valentine of all humanity, enhancing intimacy and compassion.

Here’s a rich three step Valentine practice for the couple, yourself, and for all people:

  1. Romantic Couple Valentine:
    May you feel loved, May you feel accepted, May you feel free, and May you feel at peace.
  2. Individual Valentine:
    May I feel loved, May I feel accepted, May I feel free, and May I feel at peace.
  3. Everyone as a Valentine:
    May we all feel loved, May we all feel accepted, May we all feel free, and May we all feel at peace.

If you’re part of a couple do this with all three. If you’re not, you can do step one with a good friend in mind.

The meaning of Valentine’s Day has evolved through the centuries. We can make this the next evolution of it starting today, deepening intimacy with ourselves, our loved ones and the rest of humanity.

Practice this and see what you notice.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

Little heart photo available from Shutterstock

3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is creator of the six month online program A Course in Mindful Living, author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler: Quick Exercises to Calm Your Mind, the premier eCourse Basics of Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join The Now Effect Community for free Daily Now Moments and a Weekly Newsletter. Dr. Goldstein is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles.


2 comments: View Comments / Leave a Comment

 

 

APA Reference
Goldstein, E. (2013). 3 Steps to Evolving Valentine’s Day: A Day of Connection and Compassion. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 25, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2013/02/3-steps-to-evolving-valentines-day-a-day-of-connection-and-compassion/

 

Last updated: 14 Feb 2013
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Feb 2013
Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.