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If You Want to Be Happy, Practice “Compausion”

compassion or compausionToday the Daily Now Moment I received was titled “Compausion”&  said:

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

~ Dalai Lama

Compassion is being able to step into someone else’s shoes and inclining the mind toward wanting to help. Try bringing compassion to yourself or to another today, or revisit the week of compassion in earlier Daily Now Moments.

Bring this into your life and see what you notice.

“Compausion” is a play on words to describe the process of developing compassion. It involves first pausing and then inclining our hearts either toward ourselves or another. This is an essential approach to healing whether the struggle is with stress, anxiety, depression, relationships, trauma, addiction, parenting, grief, or simply to be a better human being.

For some compassion may come as a natural attribute, but for many of us it’s a skill that we need to develop. In order to develop it, we need to first pause and recognize that we even have the choice to engage the next moment with compassion toward ourselves or another.

Like any other skill the more we intentionally practice and repeat it, it starts to become automatic.

The reason to practice “compausion” is simple. What would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if in the midst of difficulty our brains naturally also elicited a sense of caring and wanting to help ourselves or another? The alchemy of this neutralizes the fear and brings more love into our lives.

So the next question follows. What would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if we had more moments of love with ourselves or with others?

This brings us back to the Dalai Lama’s quote.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

The formula is pretty simple. Bring more “compausion” into your life today.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

*Daily Now Moments are a free offering of The Now Effect Community.

**The word “compausion” was created by my wonderful editor of the Daily Now Moments Beatrice Dumin.

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If You Want to Be Happy, Practice “Compausion”

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is creator of the six month online program A Course in Mindful Living, author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion, The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler: Quick Exercises to Calm Your Mind, the premier eCourse Basics of Mindfulness Meditation: A 28 Day Program, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work™ program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join The Now Effect Community for free Daily Now Moments and a Weekly Newsletter. Dr. Goldstein is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles.

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APA Reference
Goldstein, E. (2012). If You Want to Be Happy, Practice “Compausion”. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 12, 2018, from


Last updated: 9 Sep 2012
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 9 Sep 2012
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