Archives for July, 2011

compassion

How Compassion Can Free You From the Cycle of Unworthiness

In the foreword to Steve Flowers’ and Bob Stahl’s book Living with Your Heart Wide Open, psychologist and mindfulness teacher Tara Brach says that “If we cannot embrace our own frightened and vulnerable hearts, we cannot love our world.”  I think this sentence pretty much sums up the ongoing struggle most of us have with life.

In a world often devoid of a true sense of community, we grow up...
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Addiction

A Mindful Phrase to Help with Stress, Anxiety, Depression and Addiction

We’ve all heard the adage that “It is what it is,” telling us that whatever is happening is simply the reality of the current experience. But I like to add on another piece saying, “It is what it is, while it is.”

This speaks to a larger reality that whatever is here is also impermanent. Bringing this saying with you throughout the day could have beneficial effects for a range of...
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Addiction

Mindfulness and Addiction: Part I

This is part of a 3 part series in Mindfulness and Addiction.
In an age where our lives seem to be accelerating, our stress also naturally seems to be increasing. In addition to addictive behaviors potentially having a strong genetic link, it's no wonder why so many of us are craving avoidance and escape. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, one in eight Americans suffers...
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Anger

One of Life’s Greatest Fallacies

In my life, as in many peoples', my in-basket is never empty. A story is created in my mind that there is so much “to do” that “I don’t have time” for the less important tasks. I have clients that I see along with a number of projects that I engage with when I’m not seeing clients. This morning I found that same story about not having time invading my mind, creating tension...
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relationships

Don’t Just Sit There, Do Nothing

What I’m about to say is likely not going to be news for you, but it’s a critical reminder nonetheless. On the whole, we don’t have the cultural or individual maturity to handle the speed of innovation today. Technology is giving us incredible powers to get all kinds of information at our fingertips, but our minds don’t know how to control themselves.

We multitask to get more done...
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General

Why Feeling Grief is Good for Us

In a past blog, Ronald Pies, wrote about an experience which left him fuming when a local pharmacy lost close to 50 years of "priceless" home movies of childhood summers and memories gone by.  That same day continental flight 3407 went down and the deaths of 50 passengers that day putting everything in perspective. He said "Having problems means being alive" and even though we may struggle...
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