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Archives for January, 2011

Addiction

A Short One to Get You Thinking: Rumi

Just a short one from The Essential Rumi to get you thinking.
"The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep."
In what ways do you go back to sleep day to day?

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parenting

Want Better Relationships? Get Curious

Not too long ago I was standing with a friend who recently separated from his wife. As he was telling me about his current struggles my body started to get tense and unsolicited advice followed.

I noticed something didn’t feel right in the interaction, but I felt stuck between not saying anything and giving advice. At one point he responded, “You know, it would just have been better if you were a little...
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parenting

Parenting: Are We Relying Too Much on Experts?

Whether we’re parents, educators, therapists, scientists, or whomever, we are a culture that has been brought up from infancy with a belief that we are to trust experts over our own experience and intuition. It’s the classic scene from Seinfeld where Costanza and Kramer are driving their car with a navigation system and in front of them is a lake. They opt to drive into the lake because the navigation system...
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Anxiety

Top 5 Metaphors for Mindfulness: Interview with Arnie Kozak Ph.D.

When it comes to trying to understand almost anything, I have found metaphors to be extremely useful. In mindfulness we use them all the time, we say, “Paying attention to your thoughts is like lying down on a field of grass looking at the clouds go on by or like lying down by a riverbed see the variety of debris come and go.”

I am very pleased to bring you Arnie Kozak,...
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Aetna, Emindful and a Step Closer to a Dream

In a recent press release, Aetna announced the launch of a 12-week online mindfulness program created by for stress reduction that has been backed up by a randomized control pilot study:
Hartford, Conn., January 13, 2011 — Aetna (NYSE: AET) today announced that early results from randomized controlled pilot studies of two stress-reduction programs showed significant reductions in stress as compared to the control group. Aetna’s review of medical claims’ data showed a positive correlation between costs and study participants’ stress levels, suggesting potential...
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parenting

Mindful Parenting Can Help Your Marriage

In a past blog, A Child's ADHD Can Stress Your Marriage, John Grohol, cites a Washington Post article stating an increase in divorce rates among people who have children with ADHD.

One person aptly comments that it also could be because one or more of the parents have ADHD and it's not diagnosed making the marriage more difficult. Having children with ADHD or special needs is challenging...
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Forgiveness

Debbie Friedman: A Woman Whose Life Blessed Us All

Debbie Friedman was a Jewish American Folk Singer who made more than 20 albums and performed at Carnegie Hall and around the world. Her inspirational songs span the ages as they are sung by 4 year children to 90 year women and men. She passed away just recently on January 9th, 2011, but the songs she created will surely living in thousands of people’s hearts forever.

One of my favorite songs of...
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Love

Compassion: An Increasing Global Movement

I recently attended a talk with Joseph Goldstein, one of the leaders in the field who have introduced mindfulness to the West. One of the key themes of his talk surrounded to topic of compassion.

Compassion arises when someone brushes up against suffering and is a combination of empathy, feeling what another is feeling, and also an opening of the heart where there is a wanting to help in some way. As...
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