Parenting

You Can’t Predict Your Kid’s Future, So No Need to Stress About It

I love airports. The inevitable lines, layovers, and delays rarely bother me because I’m just so damn happy to be there. I sit and watch the people go by; I check out their luggage choices and eavesdrop on their conversations and wonder why anyone would travel in 4” heels. When I’m done doing that, I wander up and down the terminals, occasionally stopping for a cup of coffee,  a package of peanut M&M’s, or a...

Mindfulness

Choosing How to Respond to Your Kids (Part 6/6)

Finally. After making our way through intention, attention, the present moment, and kindness and curiosity, we’ve come to the my favorite part of this whole mindfulness shtick: choosing what you’re going to do next.

The ability to be thoughtful and intentional about how we respond to our children is the pot of gold at the end of the mindful parenting rainbow.

It’s why most...

Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Kindness and Curiosity (Part 5 of 6)

Welcome to part 5 of my series on the definition of mindfulness: setting an intention to pay attention in the present moment, with kindness and curiosity, so we can then choose our next action or behavior.

In past recent posts, we've chosen to pay attention to the present moment, and we've arrived at the present moment. But it doesn't stop there.

There is a popular misconception that once you get to the present moment,...

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Mindfulness: The Present Moment (Part 4 of 6)

Well, folks, it’s been over a year and a half since I’ve updated my blog. I could give you all the reasons, from building a new house to moving into it to writing and marketing my second book, but those are just details. The important point is that I’m back. And if I’ve learned anything about parenting and life from my mindfulness practice, it’s that we can always, always begin again.


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Mindfulness: Paying Attention (Part 3 of 6)


In my last post, I explored the importance of setting an intention to pay attention as a crucial part of mindfulness.

Now it’s time to talk about paying attention.

Paying attention is key to mindfulness; if we can’t direct our awareness towards something and then bring it back to that something again and again when it wanders, we will be at the mercy of the distractions of life.

I see this in my daughters all the...

Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Setting an Intention (Part 2 of 6)


I’m currently sitting in a coffee shop. I have my laptop on the table right in front of me. The screen is bright and glowing. Even so, here are a few of the things distracting me from my writing:

-- The background music.
-- The woman sitting at the table behind me watching the news on her iPad. She has the volume turned up quite high.
-- My phone, which just beeped to alert me about an incoming text...

Mindfulness

Mindfulness: The Definition (Part 1 of 6)


“Living in the moment.”
“Living with whatever comes your way, without trying to change it.”
“Accepting everything.”
“Being happy / content / joyful all the time.”

These are some of the phrases that I’ve heard people mention when they talk about mindfulness.

While all of them have something to do with mindfulness, none of them are quite accurate. And that’s a problem.

These misconceptions are a big part of the reason why mindfulness gets such a bad rap in the press at times.

They’re...