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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Setting an Intention (Part 2 of 6)


I’m currently sitting in a coffee shop. I have my laptop on the table right in front of me. The screen is bright and glowing. Even so, here are a few of the things distracting me from my writing:

-- The background music.
-- The woman sitting at the table behind me watching the news on her iPad. She has the volume turned up quite high.
-- My phone, which just beeped to alert me about an incoming text...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: The Definition (Part 1 of 6)


“Living in the moment.”
“Living with whatever comes your way, without trying to change it.”
“Accepting everything.”
“Being happy / content / joyful all the time.”

These are some of the phrases that I’ve heard people mention when they talk about mindfulness.

While all of them have something to do with mindfulness, none of them are quite accurate. And that’s a problem.

These misconceptions are a big part of the reason why mindfulness gets such a bad rap in the press at times.

They’re...
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Parenting

In Defense of Time-Outs. Sometimes.


I’m in the mud right now with my four year old. She’s been talking back and having tantrums on a daily basis. Between her explosions and this miserable winter and all of the mundane details of life that require my ongoing attention, well, I’m worn a little thin. I suspect we all are.

As a result, my responses to my daughter’s meltdowns have been inconsistent, to say the least. Sometimes I’m funny and sweet with...
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Children

What I Learned From My Daughter’s Drawings

My daughter drawing a robot for her Daddy.

A unicorn standing in a field of butterflies.

A fairy jumping off a dock into a mountain lake.

Two boys and two girls and a monkey playing football.

If you asked me to draw any of these scenes, my reaction would be something along the lines of, “Of course not. I’m terrible at drawing!”

But if you ask my six-year-old daughter to...
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General

How My Daughters Are Helping Me Keep My Resolutions

Our resolutions charts for the first week of 2015.

In my last post, I offered some ideas for how to set effective New Years Resolutions. Although there are many folks out there who question the value of setting resolutions at all, I couldn’t help myself. I love the idea of a fresh start and a new opportunity to do a little bit better for myself and my family.

I...
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General

How to Really Keep Your Resolutions This Year


Less than two weeks. We have less than two weeks until the new year, and we all know what that means.

New Years Resolutions.

I love resolutions. I love a fresh start, a new opportunity to begin again.

And, like the vast majority of Americans, it’s not long before I lapse into old habits again.

The thing is, change is hard. It’s especially hard when we’re tired and busy and overwhelmed by the demands of work and home and...
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General

My Top Ten Favorite Parenting Resources

I’m back!

Sorry I disappeared for a while, folks. I’ve been busy with book talks for Parenting in the Present Moment, working on my next book about teaching mindfulness to children (New Harbinger, 2015), helping my big girl transition to kindergarten, my little girl transition to not being in the same school as her big sister (The tears! Oh, the tears!), and obsessing about Serial.

Anyway, one of the most common questions I get at...
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Mindfulness

Actually, We Have Lots of Chances to Raise Our Kids Right


I recently came across a Facebook meme that said, “You only get one chance to raise your kids right.”

My gut reaction to this post was, “Ugh. Well, I’ve already screwed that one up. Forget the college fund. I need to start a therapy fund.” The truth is that I get frustrated with my daughters, I snap at them, and yes, I have even been known to hide from them. (Only in the bathroom, and not...
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General

Staying Present When the Babysitter Calls Out Sick


The babysitter called in sick yesterday.

Actually, she texted in sick.

(For the record, I have come to dread any texts that come in before 8 AM.)

I had spent my shower planning out the work I was going to get done once she showed up (so much for mindful awareness, which, as it turns out, I really could have used that day); the list included revising two book chapters, outlining two more, writing a blog post, preparing two...
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Mindfulness

Deciding Not To Go – Mindful Parenting and Decision Making


Oh man.

I really wanted to go.

I’ve wanted to go to this retreat for three years. It happens in late August every year in Northern California, and it’s led by two experienced and amazing mindfulness teachers.

It’s six days long. When you add in a day on each end for cross-country travel and a day to visit my family and editors nearby, that’s nine days.

I’ve never been away from my girls for nine straight days.

My husband is...
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