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Your Relationship: The Best Leverage You Have Over Your Kids


“If you do that again, I’m going to be pretty unhappy.”

I made that bold and daring threat to my younger daughter this morning.

Ok, it’s not officially a threat. It was more like a fairly accurate description of what was likely to happen if she continued to be annoying, but I’m sure her six year-old brain heard it as a threat. Either way, I said it.

I say some...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Kindness and Curiosity (Part 5 of 6)

Welcome to part 5 of my series on the definition of mindfulness: setting an intention to pay attention in the present moment, with kindness and curiosity, so we can then choose our next action or behavior.

In past recent posts, we've chosen to pay attention to the present moment, and we've arrived at the present moment. But it doesn't stop there.

There is a popular misconception that once you get to the present moment,...
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Parenting

In Defense of Time-Outs. Sometimes.


I’m in the mud right now with my four year old. She’s been talking back and having tantrums on a daily basis. Between her explosions and this miserable winter and all of the mundane details of life that require my ongoing attention, well, I’m worn a little thin. I suspect we all are.

As a result, my responses to my daughter’s meltdowns have been inconsistent, to say the least. Sometimes I’m funny and sweet with...
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Children

What I Learned From My Daughter’s Drawings

My daughter drawing a robot for her Daddy.

A unicorn standing in a field of butterflies.

A fairy jumping off a dock into a mountain lake.

Two boys and two girls and a monkey playing football.

If you asked me to draw any of these scenes, my reaction would be something along the lines of, “Of course not. I’m terrible at drawing!”

But if you ask my six-year-old daughter to...
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General

How My Daughters Are Helping Me Keep My Resolutions

Our resolutions charts for the first week of 2015.

In my last post, I offered some ideas for how to set effective New Years Resolutions. Although there are many folks out there who question the value of setting resolutions at all, I couldn’t help myself. I love the idea of a fresh start and a new opportunity to do a little bit better for myself and my family.

I...
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Mindfulness

Actually, We Have Lots of Chances to Raise Our Kids Right


I recently came across a Facebook meme that said, “You only get one chance to raise your kids right.”

My gut reaction to this post was, “Ugh. Well, I’ve already screwed that one up. Forget the college fund. I need to start a therapy fund.” The truth is that I get frustrated with my daughters, I snap at them, and yes, I have even been known to hide from them. (Only in the bathroom, and not...
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Mindfulness

Deciding Not To Go – Mindful Parenting and Decision Making


Oh man.

I really wanted to go.

I’ve wanted to go to this retreat for three years. It happens in late August every year in Northern California, and it’s led by two experienced and amazing mindfulness teachers.

It’s six days long. When you add in a day on each end for cross-country travel and a day to visit my family and editors nearby, that’s nine days.

I’ve never been away from my girls for nine straight days.

My husband is...
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Meditation

Planting the Seeds of Mindfulness


My five-year-old daughter flipped out this morning when she learned that she needed to get a blood test. While I’m not a big fan of tearful wailing at 8:00 AM, I have to admit that flipping out is a perfectly reasonable response to the thought of having a complete stranger stick a needle in your arm. Especially when you’re just five years old.

We’ve been through our fair share of flip-outs, and they usually end with...
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Parenting

More Book News – Mindfulness for Parents and Children!

Once again, a few weeks have gone by since I’ve updated the blog. And once again, it’s because I’ve been happily buried in book projects. In addition to Parenting in the Present Moment. It's currently available for pre-order, and I'm setting up my book tour for next fall and winter now. If you're interested in having me come speak about mindfulness, parenting, and how to stay focused on what really matters, please be in touch!

In addition,...
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