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What I Learned From My Daughter’s Drawings

My daughter drawing a robot for her Daddy.

A unicorn standing in a field of butterflies.

A fairy jumping off a dock into a mountain lake.

Two boys and two girls and a monkey playing football.

If you asked me to draw any of these scenes, my reaction would be something along the lines of, “Of course not. I’m terrible at drawing!”

But if you ask my six-year-old daughter to...
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How We Can Teach Our Children Mindfulness


“Mindfulness is not hitting someone in the mouth.”

Those were the words of an 11-year-old boy who had just completed a five-week mindfulness-training program at his school, as reported by The New York Times. It’s a simple statement, but it speaks to several of the emotional and psychological benefits of mindfulness training, including increased patience and frustration tolerance, and the ability to stay calm in the midst of challenging situations and intense emotions.

What parent doesn’t...
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Mindful Parenting: Looking Beyond the Behaviors


“Fine. If you’re going to pee your pants again, then you can’t sit on the couch anymore tonight.”

I said those words to my four year-old daughter last night. She’s been potty trained for over a year now, but it’s been a bumpy road. Things had been going really well for a few months, and then the accidents started again just over a week ago. I’d been doing my best to stay patient, but it all...
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Book Review

Mindfully Parenting Children We Didn’t Expect


"All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves."

I read these words in the description of Andrew Solomon's latest book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity. I haven't yet read the book, as it just came out, but it's on my list. In...
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Book Review

Mindful Parenting Reading List


I recently attended a lecture through my local Community Education program, and the presenter offered a great list of books related to mindful parenting. I haven't read all of them yet, but I'd like to share them with you, along with their author's websites (when available).

Raising Happiness by Christine Carter, PhD
A Pebble in Your Pocket by Thich Nhat Hanh, Phillipe Ames, and Nguyen Thi Hop
Planting Seeds: Practicing...
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Lessons in Mindfulness from a Disney Princess?

My daughters recently discovered Cinderella and the rest of the Disney Princesses, and within a few days they were obsessed. We read the stories on a daily basis, they’ve seen the Cinderella movie, and when they play, there’s a lot of “discussion” about who gets to be Cinderella and who has to be the prince.

The egalitarian feminist social worker in me is a bit horrified; I don’t love the idea of my daughters...
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Five Expressions of Mindful Parenting

I recently found this piece on . As I read the article, it seemed as if the author was speaking directly to me as a parent. It's worth reading the whole post, but briefly, the five expressions of mindful living that he outlines are:

1. I don't know.

2. I was wrong.

3. I made a mistake.

4. It happens.

5. How can I help?

Think back to your childhood. How often did your parents...
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