Archives for October, 2013
In my last post, I wrote about why parenting when you were under-parented can be so hard. It’s harder because those of us who grew up in chaotic homes may want to raise our children in drastically different ways, which means we’re basically reinventing parenthood as we go along. In addition, we may be more likely to be triggered by our children’s challenging behavior, sending us down an emotional “low road,” which can...
I recently posted the following quote by Dr. Laura Markham on my Facebook page:
"When we regulate our own emotions our children learn to regulate their emotions. That allows them to regulate their behavior, presuming they're connected enough to us to want to."
A few days later, one of my readers sent me this response:
“ what if you were raised in a totally dysfunctional family where screaming & yelling were...
Lately I’ve started doing a different kind of meditation. Rather than focusing on my breathing, I repeat the following phrases in my mind:
May I be safe.
May I be happy.
May I be well.
May I feel loved.
And then I repeat those same words, but for different people. Lately, I’ve been mostly focusing on my daughters.
Now, if this sounds a little bit too Stuart Smalley (“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggonit, people...
I just posted the following status update on my Facebook page:
Here is what I wish someone had said to me when I was a new mother:
Parenthood is, without question, the hardest thing you will ever do. It will kick your a** every single day, in a hundred different ways. Learning how to take care of a baby is important, but you also need to learn new ways to take...