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Mindfulness

How Parents Can Practice Mindfulness (Even With Our Kids Around)


This post is part of Stress-Less Parenting Club's new workshop. Our leader Carla Naumburg is showing us how we can make our family life calmer and happier through mindful parenting.

So far in this workshop, we've talked about what mindful parenting is -- the ability to tune in to what is actually going on with you and your kids so you can respond thoughtfully, rather than reacting impulsively -- and some of the myths about...
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Mindful Parenting: Cultivating Gratitude


A commenter on a recent post asked an important question:

Maybe you could write an article about how to inspire kids’ thank-you's without ‘drilling it in’ to your children? What is the emotional basis for gratefulness, anyway?"

I don't know if I can tell you what the emotional basis for gratitude is, but I do have some ideas for how to instill gratitude in your children. (If you're wondering why gratitude matters, check out
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When Motherhood Is A Big Fat Fuck You

I recently came across a post titled "Motherhood: The Big Fat Fuck You."

Of course I clicked on it, along with hundreds of thousands of other folks (over 91,000 of whom shared it on Facebook). And I read it, and nodded along. In it, the author talked about losing it when one of her seven (!) children disobeyed her. Again. It wasn't just about her eight year old changing the channel on TV when she...
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Mindful Parenting: The Myths and Truths

Mindfulness is a popular concept right now, and there are a lot of misconceptions about what it is and what it isn’t. Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment without judging it. Sounds simple, but it’s not easy. Mindful parenting involves being aware of how you and your kids are feeling and of what is going on between you and around you. It also means...
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Mindful Parenting on HuffPost Parents!

I am so pleased to be running the fourth workshop in the HuffPost Parents' Stress Less Parenting Challenge. The introductory post is up, and there will be four more over the next month. Each week I'll introduce a new perspective on mindful parenting, along with some challenges for the week. Please feel free to join me over there this month, and I'll still be writing here,...
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A Mindful Perspective on Leaning In and Opting Out


According to a fascinating infographic recently published on the The Huffington Post, I am living the dream life: working part-time from home. I am immensely grateful that we can afford this; the flexibility I have to do a load of laundry in the middle of the day or pick up a sick kid from daycare has allowed me a work/family balance that is fulfilling and manageable most of the time. Sure, there are...
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The Second Arrow of Mindless Parenting


It had been a long afternoon. I arrived at daycare to find two little girls in the midst of huge meltdowns that left both me and my daycare provider completely baffled. It took the entire drive to the pool to calm them down, but once they were in the water for their swim lessons, it started all over again. The crying, the whining, the negotiating with their swim teacher over every single thing she asked...
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