Archives for May, 2013

Mindfulness

Potty Training: The Ultimate Challenge in Mindful Parenting


Last Friday morning my nearly-three year old announced that she was done with diapers. She wanted to wear underwear, preferably of the Hello Kitty variety, thankyouverymuch. Fortunately, we had a few pairs in her dresser drawer that had been left untouched for almost a year, so off we went.

Let’s just say the weekend was messy. Very messy.

After we put the girls to bed the other night, it occurred to me that potty training is the...
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Mindfulness: Can It Make Parenting Easier?


There’s no question in my mind that mindfulness can make us all better parents, both by helping us to stay tuned in to our own thoughts and feelings so they don’t unconsciously dictate our actions AND by giving us the skills and tools to truly connect with our children so we can best respond to their thoughts and emotions with kindness. I have found that my own meditation and informal mindfulness practices have made a...
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Mindful Parenting: Nothing Special?


I am currently re-reading Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn. It's a long book, but well worth the time. I came across this quote and wanted to share it:

"In the Zen tradition of meditation, people are fond of saying that the practice is nothing special. The practice is nothing special in the same way that being a mother or giving birth is nothing special, that being...
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Mindful Parenting: Will I Ever Get It Right?


“Wow. I’m never going to get this right."

Those words passed through my mind last night as I sat on the floor trying to focus on my breathing. I was in a conference room with nine other people, nine other parents who had also signed up to take a mindful parenting class at the Center for Mindfulness at the University of Massachusetts, Worcester.

As I heard my classmates talk about their struggles with raising their children—most of...
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Mindful Parenting, Mindful Speaking: Finding New Parenting Cliches


We’ve all been there. We’re standing in line at the grocery store or the pharmacy with a baby squirming in our arms and a toddler pulling at our pants when the person in line next to us (usually an older woman, but not always) looks over the scene of barely-controlled chaos before saying something along the lines of “Enjoy every minute. It goes by so quickly.”

I ‘ve heard some version of that little ditty more...
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Mindful Parenting Five Minutes at a Time


Yesterday afternoon I made banana bread with my four year old daughter. To be honest, I'm not much of a cook and she's not particularly interested in food preparation either, but we had a great time anyway. I didn't snap, she didn't whine, and neither of us threw a tantrum. After it was all over, I took some time to reflect on why it had worked out so well. I realized that it had nothing...
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