Archives for October, 2012

Mindfulness

Informal Mindfulness Practice: Being Present for a Few Moments at a Time

A couple of weeks ago I wrote a post about how I meditate; meditation and yoga are examples of formal mindfulness practices. But we don’t have to be sitting with our eyes closed or twisting ourselves into pretzels in order to practice mindfulness; we can choose to reconnect with the present moment at any time. Any of our daily activities—from brushing our teeth to drinking coffee or washing the dishes—represent an...
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Mindful Parenting Thoughts by Elisha Goldstein

I recently found a wonderful post by my fellow PsychCentral blogger Elisha Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, author, and mindfulness teacher. Last April, Dr. Goldstein wrote about mindful parenting, including these words of wisdom:

The fact is, one of the most important gifts a parent can give a child is their presence, validation, and security. When we’re present with our children it lays the path for attunement and resonance. Attunement is...
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Why I Deleted the Apps on My iPhone


My name is Carla. I am the mother of two young daughters, and I am addicted to my iPhone.

I am also a clinical social worker, which means I don’t use the word “addicted” lightly. There are many different ways to understand and define addiction, but the one that has always made the most sense to me focuses on the extent to which the possible addiction interferes with an individual’s ability to function in...
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Technology and Mindful Parenting: Finding the Balance


I recently came across an article on The Huffington Post titled “5 Ways Technology Makes You Miss Your Kids’ Childhood.” The author, Nicole Fabian-Weber, contends that we parents spend so much time trying to capture every last moment or making ourselves accessible to everyone other than our kids that we totally miss the important moments with our children. I agreed with much of the post, but I thought it overlooked the...
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This Too Shall Pass: Being Mindful in the Moment


When I was a new parent, celebrating a baby who was finally sleeping through the night or bemoaning the challenges of introducing solid foods, a more experienced parent would inevitably tell me that it was only a phase. This response irritated me to no end. Perhaps it was because I didn't fully get what that meant, perhaps it was because I felt patronized, but for whatever reason, I didn't want to hear it.

Over the past four years, as I...
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Mindful Parenting vs. Attachment Parenting

Someone recently asked me about the difference between mindful parenting and attachment parenting. It’s a great question. I’m still working out just what my definition of mindful parenting is, but a good summation is that it involves being present in the moment with yourself and your children, in a non-judgmental way. By being mindful (rather than distracted or reactive), we can create space in our own minds and hearts...
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Children

Five Expressions of Mindful Parenting

I recently found this piece on . As I read the article, it seemed as if the author was speaking directly to me as a parent. It's worth reading the whole post, but briefly, the five expressions of mindful living that he outlines are:

1. I don't know.

2. I was wrong.

3. I made a mistake.

4. It happens.

5. How can I help?

Think back to your childhood. How often did your parents...
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Meditation

How I Meditate


Let me be clear about this. I am not the “meditating type,” if such a type actually exists. I don’t wear long flowery skirts, I’m not into mystical rituals, and chanting has always creeped me out. To be perfectly honest, I always thought that meditation was for weirdos who would be better served by a little self-discipline and a well-crafted to-do list.

Until I had kids, and realized that perhaps I had become...
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What is Mindful Parenting?

The concept of mindfulness is pretty straightforward. To paraphrase Jon Kabat-Zinn, it’s about paying attention to the present, on purpose, without judgment. That might seem pretty easy, but when you dig a little deeper, it becomes clear that it’s no easy task.
In a world filled with screens and phones and distractions at every turn, paying attention can be challenging, to say the least. The reality is that most of us just aren't good...
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