5 thoughts on “Helping the Smoker in Your Life

  • March 30, 2012 at 3:47 pm

    I’m a smoker! Whilst I appreciate you trying to understand this and explain it to non smokers it comes across to me as patronising and unhelpful. Oh by the way i don’t use a car/aircon/ hot water/meat/alcohol/drugs. I buy all my non foods items second hand and all my food from the best ecologically sourced venues possible – the taxes I pay for cigarettes are far higher than the costs caused to the health system by smokers – um what were you trying to say??

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    • April 1, 2012 at 11:02 am

      Thank you for your comment.

      It would be helpful to hear more about what you found “patronizing” and “unhelpful” here. I do think perhaps I could have emphasized the point that we can only help the smoker quit when he/she wants to quit.

      In our book, Smoke Free Smoke Break, we emphasize the right of the smoker to continue smoking without harassment. We also acknowledge in the book that smokers have been unfairly maligned and that they suffer such inequities as higher taxes. It is unfortunate that in smoking (as in so many things in our society) we have set up an “us versus them” dynamic which leaves smokers feeling attacked and therefore defensive.

      I think it can be difficult for a family member of a smoker, who is understandably concerned about the health and well-being of the smoker they love, to stop “campaigning” to get the smoker to quit.

      Whatever you decide to do vis a vis your smoking, I wish you well!

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  • February 9, 2013 at 9:19 am

    Trying to understand a parent who is slowly dying due to lack of oxygen/COPD and who continues to smoke. Have reasoned and asked and finally said I would be minimizing contact due to the smoking.

    Meanwhile, must confess I thought it “crazy” to keep doing something that is so painful. Could not comprehend this addiction.

    This article, showing how the smoker is putting mind over body has made me understand the rationale of this habit. I have–many times–sacrificed my body for mental relief. I just have not taken on a habit as costly (in health).

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