5 thoughts on “Perfectionism Runs on Mindlessness

  • August 30, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    Pointing out that perfectionism is mindless strikes a strong and well aimed blow at the vanity that is at the heart of perfectionism.

    I am just a bit unsure about what is meant by ‘reflexive compliance’?

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    • August 30, 2010 at 12:25 pm

      Hi Adam:

      a) I don’t think of perfectionism as “vanity;” perfectionism – as I see it – is a platform of coping, one’s best coping to-date, a pursuit of wellbeing, albeit sub-optimal; the goal is to upgrade this coping platform to self-acceptance and, if need be, to acceptance-based perfectionism (in which you accept that you are doing the best you can at any given point in time and, if necessary, continue to grow, to strive).

      b) to clarify: “reflexive compliance” is “automaticity, over-conditioned behavior,” i.e. mindlessness.

      Be well.

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  • August 30, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    Do you not think that there is an element of vanity and pride (or frustrated and wounded pride as the case may be) contained within perfectionism?

    I think so…. surely???

    (I am not suggesting that this is ALL that perfectionism is).

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  • August 31, 2010 at 4:43 am

    Thanks – the three-fold division of perfectionist hunger is really very helpful.

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