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Compassion is Self-Care

Melbourne Perfection (1)


Melbourne, Australia, June 2016:


 


I am here to teach a two-day workshop on mindfulness applications for worry, dysthymia, substance use, anger management, etc (through TATRA). I get set up: PowerPoint slides - check, mic - check, a glass of water - check, coffee - The conference room...
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Why Fear Compassion

A few years ago I wrote about BugZooka which is a “fast, simple, safe and clean way to rid your home of unwanted spiders and bugs.”

Well, it broke. Which is no big deal, of course, particularly after a couple of years of use. So, I readily and promptly ordered another one. It arrived: nothing has changed – same excellent product that it was. The packaging, however, seems to be just a tad more psychologically sophisticated. The product promises a “kinder, gentler way...
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Anger Management

An Apriori of Forgiveness: You Can Blame a Human No More Than a Tree Branch That Just Fell on Your Head

Most of the time we move forward/onward without any philosophy of living, without any ideology, mindlessly!

In mindlessness we are all equal - from saint to sinner (not that I believe in these distinctions).

But when something aversive (bad) happens to us or those that we relate to ( identify with), our implicit philosophy of living crystallizes into a situation-specific judgment, a "stone." (as in a "stone of judgement"). Emotionally, we experience it as anger or rage...
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Compassion is Self-Care

Throw a Banana at Me Anytime!

I am surrounded by information. Each day I see, hear, smell, taste, touch and read, read, read as much as life allows. On my bedside table this week: Nick Humprhey's Soul Dust and Douglas Hofstadter's Surfaces & Essences.  Stockpiled on my kitchen counter, this weekend: National Geographic, New York Times, Popular Science.  In my browser, this moment: CNN - "Bananas Thrown at Italy's First Black Minister."

Bananas...
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Compassion is Self-Care

New Human Narrative (NT Perspective)

Context: please, if you haven’t yet, read my posts on the Neural Tribe (NT) Perspective -  Neural Tribe (an Introduction to the Meme)  and Neural Tribe Doctrine - to get a better sense of where I am coming from with all of this.  Both of these posts introduce a new narrative about what we are and what we aren't.

Neural Tribe is Information-Processing Tribe
Neurons process information and share it with each...
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Compassion is Self-Care

Why We Fear Compassion

A couple of years ago I wrote about BugZooka which is a “fast, simple, safe and clean way to rid your home of unwanted spiders and bugs.”  (See God-Training with BugZooka )

Well, it broke.  Which is no big deal, of course, particularly after a couple of years of use.  So, I readily and promptly ordered another one.  It arrived: nothing has changed – same excellent product that it was.  The packaging, however,...
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Compassion is Self-Care

Egocentric Cells


Back in the late 90s, as part of my doctoral training at SUNY Buffalo, I did a psycho-oncology practicum at the Roswell Park Cancer Institute and was later briefly employed in their pain clinic as a clinical research assistant.

Naturally, in those days cancer was very much on my mind (as well as the interplay of pain and time perception).  It was back in those days that...
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360 of Compassion

Community Through Communication

Facebook, Twitter, email, chat, texting, social media, blogging.  What is this constant compulsion to share?  Must be the fear of remaining un-witnessed.

When “the body is but the foam of a wave” (as Dhammapada teaches), the mouth has nothing to do but to foam with words.

It’s always been like that.  What’s a haiku but a medieval tweet?!  Mind watches its own passing and mourns itself with verbal sentimentality.  Community through communication.

Pass your time in...
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Acceptance-Based Perfectionism

Are There No Mistakes?

No One Makes Mistakes On Purpose (Sabotage Notwithstanding)

The phrase “to make a mistake” implies purposive, conscious, planned action.  That’s utterly inaccurate: there are no intentional mistakes, no one consciously sets out to fail.

When we fail on purpose, when we make a mistake by design, we are actually succeeding with some kind of covert plan.  Therefore, even an act of conscious sabotage isn’t a mistake (to you) even if takes the form of a mistake (to...
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360 of Compassion

Happy New Spin to You!


A year – astronomically – is a spin of a celestial object around a center of gravity.  In our – Earthly – case, a year is, of course, a spin around the Sun.

As we yearn for stability and balance in our lives, we are zipping around the Sun at an orbital speed of 30 kilometers per second (that’s 108,000 kilometers per hour) – and not...
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