We love to love.
Love is auto-telic* (self-reinforcing).
When we hate, we hate the fact that we hate.
We hate to hate.
Hate is auto-exaleiphic** (self-limiting).
Notice this distinction in yourself.***
* Auto-Telic/autotelic: auto is Greek for “self” and “telos” is Greek for “goal” = self-reinforcing, self-driven, a goal in and of itself
** Auto-Exaleiphic/autoexaleiphic: auto is Greek for “self” and “exaleipho” is Greek for “wipe out, obliterate” = self-limiting (a term that the author of this blogpost coined for the purpose of this blogpost only).
***A caveat: initially we might not mind that we hate, we might hate righteously, with or without awareness, this is a period/phase of anger, when hate is really just fear; but eventually as the limbic/affective side of hate/fear fades away, hate becomes a kind of cognitive residue. Hate turns on itself. In sum, inevitably, hate spoils itself.
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