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Uniqueness is Beyond Comparison

9781572247567In my work with perfectionists I often ask: “Are you unique?”  Clients typically nod: “Yes.”

And then I say: “To be unique is to be one of a kind, right?  Right.  If you are one of a kind, then no one is like.  Right?  Right.  If so, then what is the basis of comparison if no one is exactly like you?!”

Here’s U.G. Krishnamurti making a related point:

“If you are freed from the goal [of having to be] perfect, then that which is natural in [you] begins to express itself.  Your religious and secular culture has placed before you the ideal man or woman, the perfect human being, and then tries to fit everybody into that mould.  It is impossible. […] Nature is busy creating absolutely unique individuals, whereas culture has invented a single mould to which all must conform. It is grotesque.”

And so I conclude: “Uniqueness is beyond comparison. You are incomparable. That’s not a compliment. That’s a statement of fact.”

related: Present Perfect


Uniqueness is Beyond Comparison

Pavel G. Somov, Ph.D.

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist in private practice and the author of 7 mindfulness-based self-help books. Several of his books have been translated into Chinese, Dutch & Portuguese. Somov is on the Advisory Board for the Mindfulness Project (London, UK). Somov has conducted numerous workshops on mindfulness-related topics and appeared on a number of radio programs. Somov's book website is and his practice website is

Marla Somova, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Pittsburgh, PA. She is the co-author of "Smoke Free Smoke Break" (2011).

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Somov, P. (2014). Uniqueness is Beyond Comparison. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 7, 2019, from


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