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Archives for August, 2012


Drive-Thru Smoking Cessation

The standard smoking cessation quit-date timeline is 1-2 weeks.  Here’s an example of this kind of blitzkrieg quit-date advice from a 2003 American Cancer Society publication, “Kicking Butts”: “Pick a quit date – about seven to fourteen days from now.” (p. 88)
7 to 14 days?  Really?!

Here’s another recent (2008) example of the same: “Setting a definitive quit date is one of...
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The Lila of Eating

As kids we like to role-play, pretending and testing the boundaries of our reality. We even play dead. Any game of pretense is both a learning about the world and a learning about oneself. In trying to divine what it would be like to be so-and-so or such-and-such, we figure out who we are as we notice our sameness through all the roles we play.
But what is...
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Psychology of Presidential Ambition

["Psychology of Presidential Ambition" was originally posted on 6/12/2010.  On the encouragement of a reader, I decided to re-post this blog-post.  The players have changed, but the central question of the article remains: What is the psychology of presidential ambition?]

A moment before I sat down to write this blog, I poured myself a cup of lotus tea and yelled the following into the...
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Smoking as an Expression of Mind-Over-Body Values

As a smoker, you probably haven’t thought of yourself as a health-nut, but, in a way, you are.  If you are not a smoker, surely, you haven't thought of smokers as health-nuts.   And yet an argument can be made that a smoker is a health-nut.
(If you are a smoker, you are probably slightly intrigued and want to read on.  If, however, you are a non-smoker, let alone a public health...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Mindful Eating: Process is the Point

What’s the point of eating? To live. What’s the point of living? To eat. See the circle? Sometimes people ask, “Do you eat to live, or do you live to eat?” My answer is usually “both and neither.” Notice the circle disappear.
As you eat your next meal, ask yourself, “What is the point of all this?”

Then consider this: Life is a process, not a point. To reduce the process of...
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Acceptance-Based Perfectionism

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Awareness

"100 reasons why I'm worth €"
As a clinician, I believe that self-esteem (as a treatment goal or as a self-help goal) is overrated.  I am a far bigger fan of self-acceptance.  Here are some thoughts regarding self-esteem and self-acceptance.
On Conditionality of Self-Estimation & Unconditionality of Self-Acceptance

However you slice it self-esteem begins with self-judgment.  After all, to estimate is to...
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Brain-to-Brain Interface

In 1963, a Spanish-born neuroscientist, Jose Manuel Rodriguez Delgado, stopped a charging bull with a remote control.  Delgado - a kind of neuro-torero - implanted a radio-controlled electrode inside the bull's brain (in the caudate nucleus area) and, in so doing, set a historical precedent of connecting a living brain to a machine.

The brain-machine interfaces have come a long way since those days.  The 2014 World Cup in Brazil - if all...
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Ordinary Perfection

Completely Incomplete, Perfectly Imperfect

Everything that can exist – at any given moment – exists.  Reality is entirely complete.  It has no holes.  Nothing, absolutely nothing, is amiss.  The discrepancies that we see are the differences between the ideal reality that we have dreamed up and the actual reality that has manifested at a given moment.
Whether we like what we witness or not, whether it matches our definitions of...
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