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Archives for March, 2011

Ordinary Perfection

Take Your Timeless Time, Now, Not Later

Dorion Sagan writes in Biospheres:

There is no history… nor future… but only always the language-filled present.  Linguistic convention creates the illusion of time’s We are steeped in the medium we discuss.

There was a time when I wouldn’t've had a clue as to what Sagan means to say with this thought.  But, thankfully, with ceaseless introspections and meditations, I have figured it out.

Have you?

I hope you have.

Insights such as these – in my opinion –...
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14 Billion Years Young

Record says I was born 42 years ago, on March 25th, 1969, in Moscow, Russia. The year of Woodstock, the year of Moon Landing, the year Muammar al-Gaddafi came to power in Libya.  But, of course, it’s nonsense: I am far older than 42.  Older than Earth, in fact.

Indeed, the fundamental matter* I am made of has been in existence for at least billion years (give or take billion years).  So, I am at...
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Lotus Effect: Identity Detox

Mental Cutlery

Did you enjoy your mind the last time you used it?  I hope so.

Mind - in its dichotomous*, dualistic** nature - is a prehistoric reality-cutting tool.  Mind is archaic cutlery, a primitive reality-sorting utensil.  That's all.

But it's a tool that cuts itself.  So, use it appropriately, only when necessary, and keep safe.  Clean it when done. 

How?  Wash it down with mindfulness, empty your mind of its own self.

Remember: Mindfulness is not fullness of mind but...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Yet Another Mindful

Took me 42 years (give and take) to realize that while I like the taste of apples, I don't like the process of eating an apple. 

I don't like biting into a hard spherical surface (the mechanics of this action just don't seem to feel good).  And then, of course, there is the issue of the core and the   But the taste is just  so to my  

What to do?  "Keep eating apples," mind says,...
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Lotus Effect: Identity Detox

You Are Not Your Potential

Edward De Bono, a paradigm-shifting thinker, introduced a verbal device designed to provoke original (“lateral”) thought processes.  This word is “po.” 

Po is a kind of signal to open your mind and consider a seemingly crazy idea with the hope that doing so will help you turn off your conceptual autopilots.  In De Bono’s own words, po is a kind “laxative” for the mind, and its function is to facilitate “rearrangement of information to create...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Just Another Mindful

What: a protein bar for lunch

How: eyes closed, mind's eye open

Experience: bewildering tai-chi-like dance of the tongue synchronized with washer-machine spin-cycle of the moving jaws, a mixing of crispiness and chewiness into a homogeneous swallow-ready mass, mind watching all this mouth-work and wondering "Am I really doing this, movement by movement, or is this happening on its own?" and answering itself: "Both."

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Compassion is Self-Care

Egocentric Cells

Back in the late 90s, as part of my doctoral training at SUNY Buffalo, I did a psycho-oncology practicum at the Roswell Park Cancer Institute and was later briefly employed in their pain clinic as a clinical research assistant.

Naturally, in those days cancer was very much on my mind (as well as the interplay of pain and time perception).  It was back in those days that...
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Acceptance-Based Perfectionism

Reality At Its Practical (Not Theoretical) Best

There are two ways to look at yourself and reality: a) dualistically—as either perfect or imperfect, or b) nondualistically—as neither perfect nor imperfect.  You have a choice of psychological software:  seeing the world as a discrepancy between "what is" and "what should be," or seeing the world as it actually is.

The following ten points are a kind of new operating platform to serve as an antidote to the dichotomous/dualistic/all-or-nothing cognitive style that ruins our lives.

1. ...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Empty Your Mind Before You Fill Your Stomach

To have a mindful eating moment, first, empty your mind.  Make room for presence.  Prime your hunger for an experience.  And then fill up on the moment. 

Mindfulness is not fullness of mind, but emptiness of mind.  Let your mind be as empty as a soup bowl before you fill it up with soup.  Remember: mindful eating is eating with an empty mind.  

Re-mind yourself to start your meals with an empty mind-bowl.  Empty your mind before you...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Eating Earth, Becoming Earth

Mindful eating is different things to different people.  To some, mindful eating is a weight management strategy.  To others, it’s a way to leverage more pleasure.  To some, eating mindfully is a way to pray.  For me, mindful eating is a way to meditate, a way to keep myself existentially awake and alive. 

Most of the time when I am eating I know this:

I am eating Earth (one part at a time) and I am becoming Earth (one...
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