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Smoke Mindfully to Quit Mindfully

Don’t underestimate the importance of timing. The timing of your attack on the smoking habit is extremely important.  In life, timing is the essence of a winning strategy.    The popular concept among behavioral therapists is that no time is better than the present to take action against an addictive habit.  In theory, it sounds right.  But the cold light of reality presents a different picture.  I am convinced that there is a...
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Lotus Effect: Identity Detox

Emerson’s Lotus Effect

One of the original American sages, Ralph Waldo Emerson, in an essay called Experience, writes:

“ouls never touch their objects. If tomorrow I should be informed of the bankruptcy of my principal debtors, the loss of my property would be a great would be a great inconvenience to me, perhaps, for many years; but it would leave me as it found me – neither better nor worse.

So is it with calamity: it...
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Ordinary Perfection

A Cup of Timelessness

I drank a cup of tea and watched the flowing and stillness.
Quietly and naturally I seemed to forget the return of time.

Tamara Colloff-Bennett, a connoisseur of life's moments (as  far as I can tell from our epistolary exchanges) writes, in Tea Stories from the East to the West:

"n Korean homes tea  is served about one-half to three-quarters full in dainty china tea cups.  I once asked why...
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Suchness Falls

December 1st: first light snowfall (in Pittsburgh). 

Having grown up in Moscow, Russia, I know snow.  Not with that proverbial expertise of the Eskimos who can find more types of snow than there are ice cream flavors at Baskin-Robbins.  No, not like that, of course.  But intimately, nevertheless.

For me, snow has always come with that built-in intuitive insight that we are all unique even if we don’t see it.  As a...
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