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360 of Compassion

Touch a Screen or Touch Reality

Perhaps, I am being overly dramatic but it seems to me that we – as a species – have entered the age when we are far more likely to forget our kids in a hot car than forget our smart-phones.

Indeed, we have become inseparable from our “devices.” We have become a species of absent-minded, techno-distracted zombies. We no longer notice each other. We maladaptivly jaywalk with our minds buried in our so-called smart-phones. We can’t...
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360 of Compassion

Cosmos as a Pet

Petting a dog is said to have powerful health benefits – a release of oxytocin (a feel-good bonding hormone), a lowering of heart rate and blood pressure. How marvelous!

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That is the power of touch! And the logic of it!

Oxytocin – the feel-good bonding hormone – is activated by touch.

Makes sense!

To unite, to bond (two surfaces), you have to bring them together until they touch.

And when the two biological membranes – two living skins – realize...
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Ordinary Perfection

Total Acceptance

When I look at the nameless reality of Whatever Currently Is (right now) through the lens of mindfulness and presence, everything relaxes me, everything feels "ok" and "normal" and "simply such" - even illness and death and violence and war You name it! Everything - the entire Ordinary Perfection of it all.

In 1710 German polymath Gottfried Leibniz says: we live "in the best of all possible worlds."  Exactly. And you don't have to be...
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Elements of Intimacy

[adapted from Four Legs: Building a Radically Humanistic Relationship of Love, P. Somov]

“What is love?” is one of these perennial questions that thinkers have been musing over since day immemorial. It’s a kind of question only fools dare to answer. I am one of these fools. So, here’s my attempt to define what love is. Love is an interplay of Physical Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy.

Love = Physical Intimacy + Emotional Intimacy

The interplay...
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Lessons of Resilience from Frank Lloyd Wright

[excerpt from Prairie Mind (Somov, 2017)]

Life reinvents itself, non-stop. The cosmic process continues on, without pause. Wright knew of this resilience of nature.

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The Celtic classic, Book of Taliesin, tells a story of a bard, named Taliesin, who must have been a charming guy with a “shining brow” (that’s what “taliesin” means in Welsh).

The Book of...
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Architecture of Self

“The land is the simplest form of architecture.”
Frank Lloyd Wright
There is USA and there is Usonia. "Usonia" is a term coined in 1903 by James Duff Law, an American writer, who proposed it as an alternative to the term America. Law’s logic was that USA was not the only country in North America – there were also Canada and Mexico. So Law felt that “we, of the United States, in justice...
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Mindful Emotional Eating: Review

published a list of 50 best mindfulness books; it's broken down into categories: my book on mindful emotional eating - Mindful Emotional Eating - is in included with the following description:


  "Dr. Somov’s book on mindful eating might be the most helpful one on this list for clinicians, though...
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