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Elements of Intimacy

[adapted from Four Legs: Building a Radically Humanistic Relationship of Love, P. Somov]

“What is love?” is one of these perennial questions that thinkers have been musing over since day immemorial. It’s a kind of question only fools dare to answer. I am one of these fools. So, here’s my attempt to define what love is. Love is an interplay of Physical Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy.

Love = Physical Intimacy + Emotional Intimacy

The interplay...
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Lessons of Resilience from Frank Lloyd Wright

[excerpt from Prairie Mind (Somov, 2017)]

Life reinvents itself, non-stop. The cosmic process continues on, without pause. Wright knew of this resilience of nature.

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The Celtic classic, Book of Taliesin, tells a story of a bard, named Taliesin, who must have been a charming guy with a “shining brow” (that’s what “taliesin” means in Welsh).

The Book of...
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Architecture of Self

“The land is the simplest form of architecture.”
Frank Lloyd Wright
There is USA and there is Usonia. "Usonia" is a term coined in 1903 by James Duff Law, an American writer, who proposed it as an alternative to the term America. Law’s logic was that USA was not the only country in North America – there were also Canada and Mexico. So Law felt that “we, of the United States, in justice...
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Mindful Emotional Eating: Review

published a list of 50 best mindfulness books; it's broken down into categories: my book on mindful emotional eating - Mindful Emotional Eating - is in included with the following description:


  "Dr. Somov’s book on mindful eating might be the most helpful one on this list for clinicians, though...
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We Are Pluralities

[excerpt from "Neural We: Single Neurons, Multiple Personalities, and Redefining the Species" (Somov, 2012)]

Metazoan Paradox: Each “I” is a “We” and Each “We” is an “I”

[Chapter 1-b of "Neural We"]

As a reluctant writer, I like beating around the idiomatic bush. Call it creative procrastination or priming of the linguistic pump. I know I do it too much. I love to take semantically scenic detours on the way to my conceptual point. I love to...
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Blowing In the Wind

Struggling to collect your thoughts this morning?

Leave them scattered.

Life is wind.

Mind is leaves, blowing in the wind.

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A strange thought to consider:

How are you not a tree encased in a human body?!

Don't you grow?

Don't you worship the sun?

Don't you thrive on water?

Animals and plants, aren't we rooted in the same mother-Earth?

So, how are you not a tree on legs?

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If so, these thoughts that you are trying to collect this morning,

these leaves of narrative,

leave them scattered.

Let the...
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Mindful Eating: Open Your Mind Before You Open Your Mouth

Taking the Harm Out of Emotional Eating

Here’s a question that guides my clinical mind: “What do clients want?  And how do I help my clients feel ok about what they want and help them get what they want while minimizing problematic behaviors and facilitating desired change?” This very question is at the core of humanistic harm reduction (HHR).  And it is at the core of my Mindful Emotional Eating approach.

When my clients present with concerns about “emotional eating,” I ask them...
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