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Change Comes in Mysterious Forms

“Jung introduced the idea of synchronicity to strip off the fantasy, magic, and superstition which surround and are provoked by unpredictable, startling, and impressive events that, like these, appear to be connected.” ― C.G. Jung, Synchronicity

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

I have been seeing a woman I’ll call Rosina for about eight months now. She has been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, severe agoraphobia, panic attacks and dissociation due to a robbery at her place of employment. A robber held her up at gunpoint. During the horrific event, she was able to interact calmly with the thief as she packed the things he demanded in his backpack.

She returned to work after a week but she remained in the fear response and couldn’t manage the constant feeling of intense danger.  She was overwhelmed and thus came into my office.

Our time together has made minimal progress. Her intense fears cloud her confidence and her critical voice keeps her stuck.

She rather leap forward and “return to normal” than confront her fears with small steps.  She feels the fear and then criticizes herself for having them at all. She understandably just wants them to go away.

I have used my toolbox of tools.  I introduced mindfulness meditation, four square breathing, grounding techniques, and positive self-talk to soothe anxiety. She is able to relax in session and regulate her fears but once she leaves my office, her attempts at home empower fear and her critical voice belittles her efforts.

The Anatomy of Anxiety

I explained the neuroscience of the brain after a trauma. I described the physiological changes that occur even before the conscious mind even knows why you’re afraid. The classic fear response located in the amygdala alerts other brain structures resulting in a burst of adrenaline, a shutdown of digestion, a rapid heart rate, sweaty palms, and increased blood pressure.

The circuitry from the amygdala alerts other brain structures like the thalamus and the cortex, the conscious thinking portion of the brain. After the fear response is activated, the cortex and thalamus kick into gear. The thalamus processes sights and sounds and filters incoming cues and directs them either to the amygdala or the cortex.   If the data streaming in through the senses assesses there is imminent danger, the body stays on alert.

Once the circuitry proceeds into an elevated stress response for a long period of time, it is important to learn how to regulate stress levels. That’s where mindfulness meditation, walking, deep breathing, listening to soothing music, and positive mantras can help.

As confidence is built in your ability to self regulate emotions, it is possible to slowly expose yourself to your fears in small doses. Rosina was stuck in the stress response and had depleted her self-esteem to normalize her emotions.

Symbolism and Synchronicity

While we were in a recent session, I decided to have us switch chairs to engage her into a sense of empowerment. The physical change didn’t help.

But just when things seemed so unhopeful, a cricket appeared. I had been in the office all morning without a cricket in sight. I mentioned seeing the bug crawl on the floor.

Rosina lit-up. She said, “My daughter and I were sitting in the backyard the other day and saw a cricket. I was about to kill it but my daughter stopped me. She said, “Mom, crickets are good luck. Don’t kill it. You’ll ruin your luck.”

Was this a coincidence or synchronicity? In Cameron’s book, The Artists Way she described Carl Jung’s term synchronicity as a fortuitous of intermeshing events. Whatever you want to call it, it helped Rosina. The belief in seeing the cricket sparked her hope again.

According to many cultures, crickets are a symbol of good fortune and wealth. The cheerful chirps of crickets make us happy. Even William Shakespeare writes about the joys of crickets in his play, Henry IV. In scene IV, Prince Henry asks Poins, “Shall we be merry?” Poins responds, “As merry as crickets, my lad.”

“It’s merrier than ever tonight, I think.” “And it’s sure to bring us good future; John! It always has done so. To have a cricket on the hearth is the luckiest thing in the world!” Charles Dickens, The Cricket on the Hearth

The Chinese observe the cricket as the threefold of life. Crickets lay their eggs in the soil and lives underground as lava. Then they transpire and convert into the imago.

The Irish considered crickets wise and household spirits. They understood all that was said and it was unwise to speak badly of crickets. The singing of crickets keeps the fairies away.

There is much evidence from many cultures and timespans that crickets are a symbol of good things are to come. Sometimes it’s a spontaneous symbol like a cricket that can bring positive change. I am hopeful that Rosina will get better and she will have a renewed sense of self, compassion, and gratitude.

By the way, I never saw that cricket for the rest of the day. I believe it to be a synchronistic event meant only for Rosina!

Change Comes in Mysterious Forms

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As a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC #96155) residing in Los Angeles, I offer a safe and comfortable environment for individuals, couples, and groups to heal from emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, and neglect; anxiety, depression, grief and loss, and adapt easily through life’s many transitions. We meet weekly for 50 minutes in a non-judging environment in West Los Angeles, or via Skype or FaceTime. We work together to determine your goals, assess your needs, and create a healing plan. Mindfulness, ACA tools, and nurturing support in the here and now are part of my approach to unleash critical thoughts, destructive beliefs, and assist in helping in reparenting the child within. I welcome you to contact me at [email protected] l will contact you within 24 hours of receiving your email.


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, . (2017). Change Comes in Mysterious Forms. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 21, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mind-body-soul/2017/12/change-comes-in-mysterious-forms/

 

Last updated: 14 Dec 2017
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Dec 2017
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