Many people begin their spiritual journey focusing on all that is whole and good in their life. Gratitude for the things we value is a key to having mindful living but equally important is continually excavating the long buried wounds you’ve hidden beneath layers of a protective shell.
Oprah says, “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” She likes to think of it as this way, “When you are triggered by something, like an argument, pressure at work, money issues, or even someone cutting you off on the road, this is an opportunity to bring awareness to your feelings and how your body feels.”
How to Let Go of Pain
During triggered moments, unresolved feelings of anxiety, confusion, and frustration will rush to the surface.
Take a deep breath.
Become still long enough to ask the question, “What is this experience here to show me, or to teach me?”
As you learn to interpret your internal responses, you’ll begin to recognize a pattern. We all have them.
The more you become familiar with that emotion, allow it to rise and unfold without resistance.
Experience it in the body.
Think of these moments that trigger something inside of you as spiritual disturbances. A spirit of disturbance is a troubled heart, a stress-filled life, or a disturbed heart.
Since stress is part of most of our personal lives, either in our homes, part of our families, found in our churches, and experienced in our nation. It is slowly killing and robbing us of our daily peace of mind.
Pharmaceutical companies make a fortune off prescriptions to help reduce stress and other spiritual disturbances. No matter how hard we try, pills can’t and won’t cure a disturbance of the heart when it is really a spiritual issue.
Spiritual disturbances lose their power the moment you stop pushing against them. The result is a constant and exhilarating sense of flow.
Perception of Time
Our perception of time changes according to our stages of awareness. This means our awareness can be a powerful agent for healing the past.
We’ve all heard the adage, “Time heals all wounds.” This is not truly accurate. Time does not heal all wounds because this implies a passive attitude; just wait long enough and time will do everything.
Attitude With Time
For this to be true, our attitude toward time has to be active, not passive. We need conscious responses, not unconscious reactions.
The negative experiences that happened yesterday or years ago linger as memory and trauma. These wounds are the main obstacles to making every moment matter.
Whenever we relive the past or anticipate a painful future, we are allowing old wounds to take on new life. Some psychologists call this emotional debt from the past.
Emotional debt can be equated to a bank. During negative experiences, when we react by just putting our head down and getting on with it, this response builds up emotional debt. Anger, hurt, stress, and grief withdrawals money out of the bank while conscious awareness, relaxation, and nourishment deposits money in the bank.
A Healing Approach to Past Pain
Things we have choice over, attitudes, beliefs, lifestyle, and self-care; allow us to consciously heal the wounds of conscious time and avoid their unwanted effects.
A healing approach to time begins with noticing your reaction in the moment. When you are in a stressful situation or are reminded of painful experiences from your past, take a few deep, long breaths, and be aware of how you feel. Notice your emotions and how your body feels. Be aware of any instinctual reactions, to retaliate, to resist or runaway.
Recognize that those responses are coming from your past hurt but your inner awareness, which notices these reactions and feelings is not hurt or limited in any way by the past.
This conscious presence is your real self. And it is the place through which you are free to choose a new response, different from your conditioned response.
Continue breathing and open yourself to an appropriate response to the situation that isn’t solely determined by your past pain.
But don’t try to respond like a saint or pretend to be indifferent. An artificial response does not heal your past hurt because it’s not coming from your present moment awareness.
As you become more familiar with the remaining connection to the conscious self during stressful situations, you become free from your conditioned reactions and heal your past.
By directing your attention to your inner awareness, you align your heart and mind to living in the present moment. When you learn to live from your timeless self, every moment of time is healing and everyday is filled with the joy of transforming yourself.
This is what is means to make every moment matter.
A centering thought for mediation is, “I heal my past by being in the present.”