There is an often-quoted Twelve Step principle that I have not paid much attention to....until recently.
Recently, while reading a book my own mentor recommended to me (Marianne Williamson's "A Return to Love") I stumbled across it again (my mentor's a subtle gal, let me tell you!)
"Acting as if."
As Marianne explains it, I am starting to understand the importance of this principle for the first time.
For instance, when we see our fear - of socializing, food, intimacy, growing up, being responsible, whatever it is - we can acknowledge that it is there.
We can say to ourselves, "Wow - I learned something new about me today. I never knew I was so scared (of whatever it is)."
What comes next is the critical mass point. Because we then face a fork in the road. Option A - we can then proceed to wallow in the experience of the fear (I am very, very good at wallowing).
Or Option B - we can "act as if" we are not afraid - now, today - and just go and do, say, or become whatever it is we now know we've been so afraid of.