Recently I received a question (I answer questions each month via Good News for Eating Disorders Recovery, MentorCONNECT's monthly community ezine) that struck me as one that is particularly relevant for mentoring teams.
Here is the question: I have been seeing my therapist for almost four years and it would devastate me to lose her. I have been able to open up and tell her things I have never ever been able to tell anyone before as I have so much trust in her. She is the first person to ever show me they care. Now I worry about the fact that I could lose her sometime too. I don't think I would be able to open up to anyone else like I am able to with her. I am very afraid of losing her.
My response at the time I first received the question was to simply encourage the writer to focus on building her relationship with her therapist now, and all the while to remember that if she had the skills to build a trust-based connection with one supportive other in her life, she has the skills to do it as needed throughout her recovery journey.
But now it occurs to me that this is just Phase One of learning how to let supportive others into our lives to stay.
In Phase Two, it is time to branch out.