This morning something mind-blowing occurred to me.
It is impossible - literally impossible - to have a good day.
At least, it is impossible for me.
I could no sooner have a good day than I could have a good life or a good death.
This is because I am not there yet.
A good day, like a good life and a good death, is in my future rather than my present.
The most I can reasonably, feasibly expect myself to accomplish is a good second....maybe a good minute if I'm extra-focused and industrious.
This means I have been putting waaaaay too much pressure on myself pretty much forever. Which sucks. No wonder I have tended to be such an anxious type.
Even worse, I've probably been way too instrumental in fostering anxiety in others as well, going around as I tend to do, wishing everyone a good day.
I mean, I do want them to have a good day, in the same way I want me to have a good day. But it is a lot of pressure. It is a lot to ask or expect of myself or others (especially once you factor in each person's ideas about what having a good day should look like, which is a topic for a different blog post).
As with many of my personal aha moments now and anytime, this one came to me courtesy of my pets, Pearl, Malti and Bruce.
Not a one of them ever wakes up in the morning and tackles a whole day at once. I know this because of how each one handles disruptions to their regular daily routines.
I see it best and most easily in Pearl, my parrot life companion of nearly 21 years now. This is how his routine should play out, if nothing (like my own schedule) arises to disrupt it.
First we do parrot wake-up, followed by cleaning the parrot casa and then serving parrot breakfast. From there should come a smooth segue to Yoga with Pearl (online via YouTube with the lovely #yogawithadriene) and then parrot shower...and so on and so forth.
Pearl is so sensitive to when and how each event should unfold, not to mention where, that I often start getting "evening rice alerts" a full hour before his warmed portion of rice, quinoa and kale is supposed to be served.
So imagine what happens when the daily routine gets disrupted.