4 thoughts on “Living By Yourself or Living With Yourself

  • June 21, 2018 at 2:56 pm

    OMG Shannon! Like looking in the mirror. Now I am moving in with parents in order to help them through the aging process. In a way it is for me too? I feel lost. I wonder once they are gone? Well? I don’t know if I will survive myself with myself. Alone not alone purpose why?

    • June 21, 2018 at 4:10 pm

      Boy, I couldn’t begin to guess at its purpose in a general sense….but for me, I’m starting to embrace it as a chance to never again feel uncomfortable or unsafe in my own company. I have a long way to go to really get there, but it is a goal that now somehow feels attainable (instead of impossible the way it used to feel). I hope that provides a bit of insight?

      • June 24, 2018 at 1:01 pm

        I want to get where you are. Some days it feels that way and then other days it is out of reach. My current situation is I am unable to connect or even want to connect with anyone else. Too comfortable? What I know I need, I am too uncomfortable to allow.

      • June 24, 2018 at 3:04 pm

        I can relate – truly, I can. Some days I want to get to where I am too, by which I mean some days I do better than other days. For example, just now I read about a social event connected with the animal volunteer work I do. Volunteering? No problem! Social hour meet-and-greets? Ha – as if! One part of me thinks I’d love to go, and yet the very idea of heading over just to meet new people and make small talk feels like someone poured ice water all over my soul. It’s a tough balance. The most important thing I’m learning is to be patient and compassionate with myself. If something feels fearful, there has to be a reason, and I need to start there and work forward, just like I would with a friend who was scared to do something she wanted to do. So for now, I will go to the volunteer center when it is time to volunteer. Maybe in the future I will go for social hour too – we will just have to take it day by day. I hope that helps a little? It is not at ALL like I have this figured out – I never want it to sound like I do because I truly don’t!


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