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Who Would You Be Without Your Story

Right now I am reading my way through Byron Katie’s “Who Would You Be Without Your Story?”

It is an interesting question.

Who WOULD I be?

This identity I have – as me, with my foibles (uncoordinated, can’t cook), hang-ups (socially anxious, too serious), phobias (roaches, knives), talents (music, hopefully writing!), interests (recovery, birds), etc etc etc….

Is it really “me”?

Who is me?

Who am I?

This concept of “us as story” gives me a whole new perspective on these age-old profound questions.

I might be all of the above. None of the above. Somewhere in between. Or nowhere I’ve ever been before. Or everywhere.


3 thoughts on “Who Would You Be Without Your Story

  • May 10, 2011 at 3:14 pm

    Who would I be without my story?. Hmm, someone else probibly. Do I want to be someone else?. No. Never. For all the crap and glory I carry around with me, it my crap and glory, unique and no one elses.It is my weakness and my strenght. Why would I allow anyone to convince me to ditch part of myself, I would ask what would be their motives, what are they selling. Its not about what you have done or not, or what you have been or how you have percived and experienced life, this is your unique experience and do not allow it to be invalidated by anyone. Its not about adjusting your view of your past to suit someone else but how you are going to build on your own story. Do not feel ashamed of who you are, dont be invalidated!

  • May 10, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    I see my “story” as what I have done with my life……also written my memoir, Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice).

    My story is that of overcoming and being a wounded healer….overcoming a childhood of abuse, poverty, fatherlessness, molestation, etc., etc……joining the army, getting a divorce after 31 years of abuse, fighting spiritual abuse (voted out of membership by a church; fought the system for 18 months).

    Because of my “story” I won a scholarship, and am a freshman at age 64!!

    I have also put my “soul” into my poetry book, Sanctuary of the Soul…My story is that I keep jumping over all of the hurdles thrown in front of me.

    In the end, my story will be how I received my degree when I was close to a 100! LOL…without my faith and sense of humor, I would be drooling in a corner, perhaps.

    P.S. My book was endorsed by Elie Wiesel, Wayne Dyer, Nikki Giovanni, Drs. Alice Miller, Larry Dossey, Ellen Langer, et al……I consider those amazing people as precious jewels and am humbled by what they have said.

  • May 10, 2011 at 8:55 pm

    What a wonderful post! I don’t think we can be reminded of this perspective often enough. It seems to me that it’s all too easy to slip into limiting self-definitions, to (as you say) tell and retell our favourite stories without paying enough attention to creating new ones!

    It’s particularly great that you offered this up in spring, the season where everything is fresh and new: maybe we can be, too!

    Fellow Psych Central blogger, ADHD from A to Zoë


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