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Ruminations on Peanut Butter

I watched this stressed-out baby sheep being unloaded for a children's petting zoo event. But the moment the baby sheep saw all that grass, the stress of the ride, the jouncing, the close quarters, all was forgotten as contented munching quickly commenced.

Around the time I turned 11, I discovered that the easiest way to get all my other worries to leave me alone was to pick one worry, assign it the job of being the...
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Learning to Burst Open Your Ideas

Simply lovely (thanks to Pinterest for the image).

If you've been following along here for the last month or so, you've probably read about some pretty painful experiences.

I guess I'm on a roll.

The thing is, at age 46 (and counting), I'm sure not getting any younger, and some of this stuff I really don't want to take with me.

And while I'm not sure we ever really "let go" of things that have literally reshaped...
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Recovering from Name Calling and Bullying

This beautiful painting hangs over my kitchen sink. The painter was a death row inmate who turned his life around through yoga and meditation (although this didn't prevent his sentence from being carried out). His beautiful portrait of love and hope has been a great comfort to me over the years, and never more than now.

A few nights ago, my next door neighbor called me a "prude."

While I was pretty sure this wasn't the...
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The Night I Still Don’t Want to Remember (& why I’m telling you this now)

A few days ago I walked outside one morning to find this mama yellow jacket wasp hard at work on her nest. I was spellbound watching her oh-so-carefully crafting tiny coverings for each tiny nest cubicle. Our intimate up-close-and-personal connection made me temporarily forget the scar on my thigh from where I was stung by an angry mama yellow jacket wasp two years ago, and how I promised myself never to make that same mistake again. 

Sexual assault. Rape. Child...
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Personal Thoughts on Completing the Cycle

MentorCONNECT. To me, you will always be a gleam in your founder's eye.

This week, something big happened.

Something I created, built, lavished with love and care (not to mention most of my time and cash) and then parted ways with - the better to give it the freedom to grow on its own - grew in a way I wasn't expecting.

Specifically, back in 2009, I founded a nonprofit organization called MentorCONNECT. We had...
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Thinking Your Way Up the Self-Talk Ladder

Recently, I attempted to track down an interesting quote about how the average person tends to repeat five times more negative than positive messages about himself or herself.

The surprise was what I got when I hit "enter."

I got lots of hits describing how positive self-talk can backfire on us.

In fact, the more I read about this topic, the worse I felt. Apparently, if you suffer from low self-esteem and you try to raise it...
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When Trauma Turns Into Euthanasia

Recently my friend and colleague Jenni Schaefer sent me a link to her story of recovery from post-traumatic stress disorder, aka PTSD.

Jenni and I have known each other for yet until I read her post, I didn't know she had been a victim of rape. I also didn't know she had struggled for many years with PTSD as a result of the rape.

To hear Jenni tell it, for a...
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