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Are You Happy With Your Payday?

I honestly have no idea where I found this – somewhere on Instagram I suspect. But it speaks right to the heart of how we get paid in kind for the love and gifts from mynamedgifts we choose to share with this world.

My newest beloved mentor, author and intuitive teacher Sonia Choquette, recently released a video on Instagram about manifesting money.

Now, every time I see the word “manifest,” something inside me feels a little let down. It thinks (which I guess is a clue about which part of me is feeling let down) that “manifesting” is only for people like Sonia who don’t first have to do battle with their mind which insists the whole exercise is just a worthless load of hogwash.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of battles with my mind on this very topic. After all, if it was as successful at manifesting money (or anything else) as it claims to be, we wouldn’t need to be learning how to manifest, now would we?

So in spite of certain strenuous objections coming from the upper left hemisphere, so to speak, the rest of me has watched Sonia’s new money manifesting video at least four times now.

Because the whole structure of manifesting is so alien to the system I learned growing up, where every success comes from something you build “out there” with 100% sweat equity instead of “in here” with visualizing, feeling, praying and sweat equity, I typically have to watch podcasts like these multiple times before even the basics begin to make sense, let alone sink in.

Yet there is some deeper part of me that understands what Sonia is teaching on a – dare I say it – intuitive level.

She says we get paid every day and in fairly equal measure to the amount of work we do. But until we can start tuning in to all the other ways that payment flows towards us, we won’t ever realize it. This means we won’t have the chance to choose a different payday if the one we have now isn’t working for us.

Examples she gives of paydays include receiving approval or accolades from others, reinforcing a deep inner belief (such as that it is better to give than receive or that nothing ever works out for us), money of course, feeling good about using our skills and talents to help others – you get the idea.

Where things can get tricky is when the payday we get isn’t the payday we want from the specific work we do.

Here is an example Sonia gives that resonates in many ways to my own work life as a freelancer writer.

So let’s say an artist paints a lovely painting. People see it and give her lots of compliments, which makes her feel good. But no one buys it. Inside, the artist uses this as (more) proof of what her parents have repeatedly told her over the years – that she can never make a living doing what she loves, which is painting.

This is a type of payday. Instead of money, her payday is more input that is reinforcing her own learned belief her work will not support her. 

Yet she really wants her work to support her. And the truth is, not everyone can paint – and certainly not everyone can paint like she does. She has worked hard to refine her natural talent with constant study and practice and this constant skills-building is a true labor of love for her.

Then one day she happens across Sonia’s video and realizes she is getting paid in a way that really doesn’t work for her – a type of payment she didn’t know she was receiving and doesn’t want. The artist decides she wants a different payday.

This requires some intensive inner restructuring, starting with how she perceives value in her own gifts and her own work as a painter.

Maybe her parents told her that painting doesn’t have much monetary value, but her painting mentors who are making a living as artists seem to suggest otherwise. Clearly there are people in the world who are perfectly willing – happy and delighted, even – to pay good money for great art.

When this exchange takes place, the artist is happy because they can pay rent and the customer is happy because they have beautiful art to look at and enjoy every day. This benefits everyone – what Sonia calls benefitting the “greater good.”

But to begin to get paid in this new way, the artist will have to start attaching value to her work in a different way. She will have to associate the creation of each new work with its commensurate value and learn to open up to receive her payment in kind.

This may mean calculating her studio overhead and supplies cost, the price of her education, the time it takes to create each painting, her marketing efforts, her living and health expenses as a freelance artist, whatever she invests into her contribution to this world through creating and sharing her art.

When she gets done with this process, she will be able to set a price for each painting that reflects its true value – what she needs to receive back in exchange for her willingness to give her talent with love.

Or, as Sonia summarizes:

  1. We all have a payday of some type.
  2. This payday will only be as great as the value we attach to our offering.
  3. We have to be comfortable receiving in equal measure to the value we attach to what we give.

Today’s Takeaway: Are you happy with the paydays you receive in different areas of your life – your relationships, your health and fitness efforts, your career and work, your creative dreams? If no, where might you need to adjust how you assign value to what you have to offer in order to receive¬†value in kind (your payday)?

Are You Happy With Your Payday?

Shannon Cutts

Parrot, tortoise & box turtle mama. Writer. Author. Mentor. Champion of all people (and things) recovered and recovering.

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Cutts, S. (2020). Are You Happy With Your Payday?. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 4, 2020, from


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