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Where You Plug In Matters

Could it really be that finding happiness - peace - sufficiency - is as simple as plugging in to that which sustains us all?
Could it really be that finding happiness – peace – sufficiency – is as simple as plugging in to that which sustains us all?

In my last post, I shared thoughts on a documentary film called “Afterlife.”

I’m still thinking about it.

But, oddly, the reason has nothing to do with the film’s primary topic.

Rather, I’m thinking about an offhand comment one of the stars made about where we plug in.

He said something to the effect that, too often, we attempt to plug in to things or people when we should be plugging in to our source.

(I have to assume by “source” he meant whatever it is that connects everything together – God, spirit, energy, light, the ultimate mentor, whatever each person prefers to call it.)

Names aside, this REALLY hit home to me.

My brain has a tendency to wander off into less productive areas, where (for some incomprehensible reason) it enjoys thinking about topics like financial scarcity, loneliness, the aging process and, well, death.

Now, when I catch it sneaking away again, I stop it and say, “NO. You won’t find what you are looking for there. Go plug in to the source.”

In the same way, when I catch it eyeing my bank balance, boyfriend, pets, possessions or the contents of my frig in search of the meaning of life (after 46 years, it still does this on nearly a daily basis!) I say firmly, “Not there. Go plug in to the source.”

Oddly, this seems to be working. 

It reminds me that my time here grows shorter daily. It reminds me of my pledge – shared with you here on my recent 46th birthday – that I want to be happy.

It reminds me that my New Year’s Intention for 2017 is: “It is Time for Sufficiency.”

It reminds me that it is my choice. I get to choose what I think. I get to choose how I spend my time here. I get to choose where I focus my energy. I get to choose my priorities.

I get to choose to worry about every little choice I make (or duck)…..or not.

Yet it is still sooooo tempting to try to plug into something less, well, eternal.

It is just so easy to feel good – say, when I am doing something I love or spending time with someone I love – and to assume the good-feeling is coming from there.

“Oh, it must be there,” I say to myself, “so I should do as much of that as possible.”

This works for a time, at least until the activity inevitably loses its appeal or the other person hides every time they see me.

At that point, I get empty again. I hate this part.

But now I know why. I know why emptiness always seems to follow fullness when I try to plug in to things or pets or people.

It is because they need to plug in too. We each need to plug in. We each need to recharge from that which fuels us all.

I don’t know how it works, or why it works, or precisely what we are all plugging in to, but I do know that it rings truer than anything else I’ve learned about enticing happiness to stick around.

Today’s Takeaway: Have you ever found yourself trying to “plug in” to people, pets, places, things, work accomplishments, volunteering, hobbies, the contents of your frig? How long did it work to make you feel happier or more connected? When did you start noticing it wasn’t working anymore? Have you found something else that works better? Do you think it is possible we may all need to plug in to the same place somehow in order to recharge? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Where You Plug In Matters

Shannon Cutts

Parrot, tortoise & box turtle mama. Writer. Author. Mentor. Champion of all people (and things) recovered and recovering.

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Cutts, S. (2019). Where You Plug In Matters. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 30, 2020, from


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