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Seeing Our Body with Eyes of Love

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Image courtesy of https://www.instagram.com/donmiguelruiz/

I follow Don Miguel Ruiz, Sr., on Instagram.

I say that because recently he re-posted the opening lines of from a chapter in his book called “The Mastery of Love” on his Instagram.

Now, I have read this book many times…..oh so many times.

I credit “The Mastery of Love” with the many oopses I have avoided making in my own relationships.

It is truly a miracle worker in print.

This particular chapter, titled “Seeing with Eyes of Love,” read:

If you look at your body, you will find billions of living beings who depend on you. Every cell in your body is a living being that depends on you. You are responsible for all of those beings. For all of those living beings that are your cells, you are God. You can provide what they need; you can love all those living beings, or you can be so mean to them.

I read it. Then I read it again. Then I read it again.

Something in me was reading in a new way, at a new level, at a depth where suddenly I GOT IT.

I can almost say I felt each one of those billions of cells, those living beings relying on me with such trust and devotion, hoping each day that this will be a day when I am loving and not mean.

These cells, with their humility, their willingness to follow, somehow are also serving as my mentors, ever so hopeful that I will learn to see with the eyes of love today, if not yesterday, or if not today, perhaps tomorrow.

Their hope was – is – so palpable. 

Ruiz’s book “The Four Agreements” has been similarly transformative in my life. In fact, I originally began following him on Instagram so I could get daily reminders about the agreements.

They are as follows:

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Always do your best.
  3. Don’t take anything personally.
  4. Don’t make assumptions.

This is relevant because, now that I have this whole new awareness of the composition of my body – billions of living beings that selflessly serve me each and every day of their lives – I no longer take myself so personally.

For example, I no longer feel like my best had better be “the” best. After all, some days some or all beings in our community may not be feeling 100 percent. On these days, my best may be different than on days when we’re all in fine form.

And I am aware that when I give my word, I am speaking on behalf of each cell, each living being, and they are trusting me to represent them accurately and well.

Perhaps most jarringly, the assumptions I’ve made over the years about the relative worth (or lack thereof) of my body in its various sizes and shapes is changing as well. Now I don’t see those parts as unwelcome or unwanted. There are beings living in those places – precious cells with a mission and a purpose for their lives.

Who I am to say that some of the cells living within me have more worth or more of a right to remain, live or thrive than others?

One night recently I was really upset about something – a conversation (more like an argument) I’d had with someone close to me. I was pretty mad at myself because I didn’t feel like I handled my half of the interaction well (certainly nowhere near “my best”).

So I decided to do a lineup. I lined each cell in my body up one by one. I asked each one in turn, “Are you ‘me?'”

And each one answered, “No, I am ‘me.'”

I went through each and every one of those billions of cells and couldn’t find “me” anywhere.

Needless to say, this was a real eye-opener. It lifted my consciousness of who “I” am in the grand scheme of things to a whole new level.

I am not any or all of the cells that make up my body.

In fact, it would appear I am not my body at all.

I am also not my mind. I know this because my mind relays the cells’ opinions and wishes (with varying degrees of accuracy), but it is just the messenger. It is not ‘me.’

‘Me’ is something above body or mind. I am me, yes, but the me that I am is in charge of and responsible for all of these beings, for the messages they send me and the mind that relays the messages, and also for the choices I make in how to respond.

I will admit, all this rumination is making me feel rather….important.

Billions of living beings depend on….ME?

Really?

Wow.

Today’s Takeaway: Have you ever thought of your body in this way – as billions of cells, of living beings that are depending on you for their survival, their quality of life, everything? How does thinking about your body in this way potentially change how you see and relate to it?

Seeing Our Body with Eyes of Love

Shannon Cutts


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APA Reference
Cutts, S. (2016). Seeing Our Body with Eyes of Love. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 21, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mentoring-recovery/2016/07/seeing-our-body-with-eyes-of-love/

 

Last updated: 11 Sep 2016
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 11 Sep 2016
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