I am always in awe right around this time of year.
This is because I realize: a) a whole year has just gone by, and b) a whole new year is just about to arrive.
Wow. When did all this happen?!
But in recent years my awe has increased as I’ve realized I am no longer looking to a fresh new year to solve all the issues and problems the tired old year didn’t get around to dealing with.
I no longer wake up on January 1st, New Year’s Day, hoping and expecting a miracle to have unfolded overnight.
This is because the miracle has already occurred – and it happened a long time ago.
The miracle occurred when I decided that, if I was going to have to spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with myself anyway, I wanted to be someone fun to hang out with!
Then I realized, I also wanted to be someone trustworthy….someone kind….someone supportive….someone mentoring….someone encouraging who continues to see the best in me, even (and especially) on my worst days.
In the very moment I made this decision, it began to happen.
In moments when I needed support, I found myself standing by my own side. In moments when criticism came at me, I was the one helping myself separate out what I needed to learn from the basic essence of who I am.
In moments of loss, I found myself hovering, eager to provide comfort. In moments of joy, I found in myself an equally eager celebrant.
This changed everything. It made life feel like LIFE, not just like existing.
It made being me a gift, a source of gratitude, a continual wonderment, a being I wanted to be.
It can do the same for you. And learning to be on your own side…well, this is the key.
Happy New Year!
Today’s Takeaway: As another New Year approaches, what are your hopes? Wishes? Plans? What are you grateful for – what miracles have already occurred that you take with you into the new year?
p.s. This post is excerpted from my monthly free ezine, Good News for Recovery + Life.