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I Love My Body…Except When I Don’t

Recently I was chatting with a recovery friend about body acceptance.

All of a sudden it hit me.

Body acceptance is one thing.

Body love – body enjoyment – well, this is quite another.

For example, most days these days I am filled to the brim with body acceptance.

I also feel reliable amounts of body gratitude and appreciation (especially after my 2011 surgery, when I experienced just how much I rely on my healthy body to do just about everything).

But body love – well, this is still a work-in-progress.

I suppose I could even say that my relationship with my body is still evolving. We’ve gotten to the mutual respect thing – but the raw throw-the-doors-wide-open “I love you with my whole heart and nothing less!” stage is yet ahead.

Of course, I’m not complaining….precisely.

After spending nearly three decades immersed in all things body hate, body revulsion, body disownment, finally experiencing body acceptance is pretty great.

But still, I aspire to more. Much more. 

My boyfriend is very helpful in this area in modeling what body enthusiasm – even love – might look and feel like.

Sometimes I wish I could trade mindsets with him for even an hour and be able to look at my shape and form, my curves, and have his experience of them.

I suspect I would be quite more enthused than I am when I look at me.

But – as four decades of personal experience has taught me – until we can do for ourselves, we seek out and even draw to us mentors who happily model the goal we seek to achieve.

Our mentors show us in every way, shape and form how great a goal it is to have, how happy we will be when we reach it, how worth it the hard work is, how awesome we will feel about ourselves when we finally get there.

Body acceptance. Check.

Body love….here I come!!

Today’s Takeaway: Where would you say you are on the continuum between body hate and body love? What is your ultimate goal? Who mentors you to continue working towards your goal? What do you think it will feel like when you finally achieve your goal?

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I Love My Body…Except When I Don’t

Shannon Cutts

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Cutts, S. (2015). I Love My Body…Except When I Don’t. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 26, 2019, from


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