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Finding Your “Formula”

shutterstock_74587597The older I get, the more perspective I gain about what works for me – and also what doesn’t.

For instance, trying to manage the stressors of life by using eating disordered behaviors doesn’t work.

Drinking caffeine all day to keep my energy level at a consistent “high” doesn’t work.

Ruminating excessively on all possible “worst case scenario” outcomes doesn’t work.

Taking handfuls of over-the-counter mood management supplements doesn’t work.

These are just a few examples.

What works for me is quite simple: medication + meditation.

Specifically in that order.

Meditation without medication offers some benefits, as does medication without meditation.

But together, they have forged an alliance that has given me a quality of life I had no thought possible.

I am definitely not recommending this formula for anyone or everyone else.

I am merely using it as an illustration of what a “formula” can look like. This is my success formula, chanced upon after decades of increasingly desperate trial and error.

I feel very grateful to have discovered it, and have no plans at this time to alter it in any way.

Why mess with something that works so much better than ALL of the other options I have tried – combined?

Your formula might look similar, the same, or quite different.

It might change over time.

But what I am beginning to truly resonate with is that we each have a personal “formula” – some uniquely balanced combination that permits us to live optimally as us – a “prescription” that is as individual to who each of us is as our fingerprints.

Finding my formula has changed everything in my life for the better.

For instance, after finding my formula, I feel I am a better person. I am a happier person. I am a more peaceful person. I am a more loving and caring person. I am a person with stronger, more useful boundaries. I am a more courageous, open person. I am also much better at deciphering my own inner cues and clues and charting a path through life that really “clicks” for me.

Most importantly, finding my formula has reawakened my sense of hopefulness in every area of my life – including in some areas where, previously, I was mildly hopeful, some areas where I was still quite hopeful, and some areas where I had become completely cut off from all sense of hope.

So perhaps my formula should more accurately read:

Medication + Meditation = Hope.

Today’s Takeaway: Do you know what your personal “formula” is? If not, do you have any ideas or clues of what it might be? If you know your formula, I’d love to hear what works best for you! If you don’t know your formula, what steps might you take to begin to find it?

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Finding Your “Formula”

Shannon Cutts

Parrot, tortoise & box turtle mama. Writer. Author. Mentor. Champion of all people (and things) recovered and recovering.

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Cutts, S. (2020). Finding Your “Formula”. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 29, 2020, from


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