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Archives for October, 2010

Book Mentors

Medical Mentoring

If there is one thing I can say about Dr. Julie O'Toole's new book, "Give Food a Chance," it is that it should be required reading for every medical student, treating professional and parent/loved one.

Written in challenging yet concise, definitive language, "Give Food a Chance" earns its endorsement from Laura Collins Lyster Mensh, founder of , author of "Eating with...
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Recovery

Worry, Mentoring and Ed


When we struggle with an eating disorder, we struggle with worry.

However, if there is one thing I have learned throughout my years of recovering from an eating disorder, it is this:

Very little of what we worry about from day to day is actually worth worrying about….with one exception.

Ed.

Ed IS worth worrying about.

Because out of all those piles of worries, all those emotions and opinions and...
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Recovery

Mentoring Basics: Boundaries

In two words - "boundaries matter".

Boundaries are what give the word "relationship" its power.

Without boundaries, we don't know how to relate to each other, why extending our trust is worth the risks, and what value interacting relationally holds.

Boundaries are like safety cones around common relational units such as bosses and employees, therapists and clients, significant others and their respective close friends, parents and children, teachers and students.

With mentors and mentees especially, boundaries lend substance and certainty to...
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Recovery

Managing Needs Versus Demands in Mentoring

I read an interesting article the other day that supposedly had nothing to do with mentoring.

Only to me, it did.

This particular post was about marketing to customers, and how important it is in the making of happy customers to be able to tell the difference between what we think the customer needs versus what the customer is demanding.

Upon first read, I found myself scratching my head and thinking, "huh?"

But then, as I read through it again...
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Recovery

Mentoring One Moment at a Time

Mentoring, like life, happens one moment at a time.

Sounds like a cliche, right?

That, as I am finding out, is exactly the problem. I live in a world surrounded by technology I barely understand, that moves much faster than I do, and never sleeps (which basically amounts to the ultimate "hmmm," considering I now serve as Executive Director for a web-based mentoring community!)

The fact...
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Recovery

Mentoring Lessons from the Human Abdomen


About six weeks ago I had abdominal surgery. I have always been fairly healthy up until this point (if we aren't counting the fifteen long years I battled against anorexia and bulimia) and so having to undergo major surgery was both a brand-new experience and understandably a source of anxiety for me.

My mother, on the other hand, being a veteran of  five abdominal...
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Celebrity Mentors

Mentoring Wisdom from MSW Candidate Leslie Benson

Leslie Benson is a 2011 MSW Candidate at the NYU Silver School of Social Work. She is also a tireless volunteer for eating disorders conferences such as NEDA and Renfrew, and for MentorCONNECT as a volunteer mentor, support group leader, and research assistant.

Leslie's experiences with mentoring, combined with her clinical training and education, has produced a voice of wisdom, compassion, and expertise far beyond her years. We are honored to host...
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