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Lessons on Learning How to Be in This World

Pearl, my sweet 17-year-old parrot, demonstrating how he likes to go outside - in his cage, with his bathroom clock for company, covered with a towel and completely "just in case."

My mind really likes a lot of detail. It also likes to be read in to the bigger picture.

For instance, let's say I decide I want to take a 30-day yoga course online (such as this one, which is...
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Why “Working On” My Body Doesn’t Work (And What Does Work)

Pearl, my body- and self-loving parrot, encourages me to continue what I am learning about working with my body!

In my last post here, I shared with you that I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism last November.

Not only did this diagnosis put together some pieces of a years-long battle with seasonal illness, but it also pretty much dismantled everything I thought I knew about the healing process.

What I mean is, I...
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Dear Diary: Today I Learned Food Is My Friend

My parrot, Pearl, looks on as I encounter the fine print that has changed everything in my relationship with food.

It takes the time it 's all I can say.

My aha moment began to unfold yesterday morning when I was eating my usual breakfast yogurt.

Yesterday morning's select was banana and cinnamon - with no sugar added. I've been eating this yogurt for some time now, but hadn't noticed the fine print on the side...
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Animal Mentors

Life Lessons from a Little Red Cardinal

A watchful CardinalGuard sings his most menacing song from the tree above our campsite.

Last month marked my second trek to Garner State Park in west Texas. Our first visit was last July, when it was sunny, warm and packed with fellow campers.

But this was February, and the park was nearly empty. We arrived after hours and navigated through the park in the cold, chilly darkness until we found our very same campsite from...
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Love & Feathers & Shells & Me

When Your Soul Feels Lonely

Do these shells ever feel lonely, even when pressed so close to one another? I do not know. But I think that, maybe, , they do.

This world can be a lonely place for a soul.

For the body, there is so much to see and do and feel and taste and experience - and it is all right here at our fingertips. The body can easily stay so busy, and so sensorily-fulfilled, it doesn't...
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Animal Mentors

Falling in Love with Trees

This amazing hundreds of years-old oak tree sustained a severe injury - a lightening bolt split it nearly in two. It couldn't move away, so it found another way to cope, and survive. I can't even find words to describe courage like that.

I have always loved green growing I'm fairly certain the feelings haven't always been mutual.

Although lately, I am no longer sure that what I've been feeling is actually love. Reason...
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Love or Attachment: Which Is It?

My parrot, Pearl, is very fond of fond. The moment a fresh sprig is presented, he leaps on it and starts chomping until all that remains is the dried-out stalk. I think it is safe to say this is an example of "attachment" rather than love!

"Is it attachment or is it love?"

To me, this is one of those deceptively easy questions - the ones we automatically think we know the answer...
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My #MeToo Story (24 years after it happened)

A rare photo from those years. I am working away in the car, focused wholly on holding my own against what felt from the start like an unfairly stacked deck.

The other day I wasn't feeling so hot. The doctor called in a prescription and I headed off to Walgreens, still dressed in my jammies.

It goes without saying (or it should, if you've ever seen my jammies) that I wasn't planning to get out...
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Movie Mentors

Sometimes Letting the Chips Fall Where They May Feels Good

I look at this pic of two dandelions and I just see raw nature at its finest. It doesn't need "dressing up." Plus, I prefer it as-is!

One of my (many) favorite movie genres is westerns. While to date I have mostly favored Clint Eastwood in roles such as "Pale Rider" and "High Plains Drifter," lately a new western contender has joined the pack.

"Hell or High Water," starring Jeff Bridges, Chris Pine and Ben...
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A New and Comforting Understanding of Physical Death

I wonder if the "everywhere" experience some people have of departed loved ones feels like looking at the vast, serene, beyond questioning.

With such a cheery title, I would understand if you, treasured reader, skipped right over this post!

I probably would have during earlier decades in my life. But now that I have reached the venerable age of 47, this is precisely the type of topic I find most interesting.

At this stage of...
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