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Understanding BPD


imagesBorderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness marked by unstable moods, behavior and relationships.  People with BPD feel the same emotions other people do. They do many things that other people do.

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  • May 2, 2014 at 10:42 am

    Our BPD granddaughter was caught in the pressbox at the high school having sex with a classmate. Her father, our son, grounded her for two months. In turn, in her angered state, she reported her father to DFS…saying he had molested her. He was arrested and brought to trial by two prosecutors who were running for judge in the county. She and they convinced a jury that our son had molested her. He spent 7 years in the Mo Department of Corrections for a crime that never happened. We are now (seemingly forever) alienated from our grandchildren and are still working when we should be retired because of the cost of defending our son in court…an impossible task with a beautiful, intelligent teenager with BPD. Thank God for a supportive faith community. A word of warning if you have a BPD in your family.

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  • May 20, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    Thank you for this article. There is far too little understanding of this disorder, and even less accessible help. BPD is manageable. People with the disorder can live a happy and healthy life – but it takes intensive therapy of the right kind (DBT is currently the gold standard) AND the understanding of those around them. If family members and partners don’t truly understand BPD and don’t learn how to interact differently than they’ve been doing (unsuccessfully!), then its like a cancer patient continuing to live with a cook who serves only deep fried food. Yes its the responsibility of the patient to choose food that’s good for them, but the environment they’re living in sure makes it tough to stick to the new healthy life-style.

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    • May 20, 2014 at 8:38 pm

      You are welcome. Individuals with BPD can live a happy life and as you mentioned, it takes the right kind of therapy and understanding from those around them. Finding a support group where family members can learn about this disorder and how to interact with their loved ones with BPD can be a great help.

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  • July 18, 2014 at 6:38 pm

    i am glad to see all the info on BPD that is out there now…i am soon to start with treatment…have started already working on new/additional meds….DBT does sound overwhelming & very hard work…in only hope it will help me that i am motivated enough to do it. I am pretty sure i will as i am starting at a treatment centre first with all that entails, but will continue to persevere with DBT once inpatient programs are done. One thing that concerns me tho is …i do not have the support of family (except perhaps my sister, one out of a total of 8 including me in family, mom passed away 2 years ago & a father that only thinks about himself & is aging at 90) How do you possibly encourage “family” to come to therapy … to even understand what is going on for you…don’t think that would ever happen, which leads me to believe i will never have a close relationship with family anymore…too much dysfunction & not enough empathy in my family!!
    Thank you for the article.

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