In a previous post, I wrote about self-esteem and what you can do to build your self-esteem. In this post, I will discuss different activities that you can use to help you feel better about yourself and help reinforce your self-esteem in the long run. Low self esteem may be triggered by your own judgements or by the judgements of others. Low self-esteem keeps you from enjoying your life and working towards goals. It is important to try to implement techniques into your life to help strengthen your self esteem. Some of the techniques listed below will help, and some will not. Read through them and do the ones that are most comfortable to you. It may be helpful to repeat some of the activities over and over again.
1) Make Affirming Lists: Rereading and rewriting your list from time to time will help you feel good about yourself. Make a list of your strengths, the things you admire about yourself, your achievements and accomplishments. Focus on the positive things. If negative thoughts about yourself creep up, reread your positive affirming list.
2) Reinforce a Positive Self Image: Set a timer for 10 minutes. Grab a piece of paper and pen and write your name on the top of the paper. Then write everything positive and good you can think of about yourself. Include attributes, achievements, talents. You can write the same thing over and over if you want to emphasize them. Write down whatever comes to mind but avoid making negative statements. When the time is up, read what you have written. It may seem new to you because a positive way of thinking about yourself contradicts some of the negative thoughts you have about yourself. Those thought and feelings will diminish as you read the list over and over again. Keep reading the list to remind yourself of how great you are.
3) Develop Positive Affirmations: Affirmations are positive statements you make about yourself to make you feel good. Some statements may include “Many people like me,” “I take good care of myself by eating right and doing things I enjoy,” I am smart and beautiful,” “I am a good person.” Keep your list in a handy place and reread it over and over again. By rereading them and rewriting them over and over again will gradually become true to you.
4) Appreciation Exercise: At the top of a paper, write “I like ____ (your name) because:” write an appreciative statement about yourself and accept what you wrote.
5) Create a personal “celebratory scrapbook:” Develop a scrapbook that celebrates you and the wonderful person you are. Include pictures of yourself, mementos of things you have done and places you have been, cards you have received, etc. You might even set up a place in your home that celebrates “you.” Decorate the space with objects that remind you of the special person you are. Looking at the objects can help bolster your self esteem.
6) Create a Self-Esteem Calendar: Buy a calendar with large blank spaces for each day and schedule one small thing you enjoy doing. Make a commitment to check your calendar everyday and do whatever you have scheduled for yourself.
7) Complimenting Exercise: Get together for 10 minutes with a person you like and trust. Set a timer for 5 minutes and start complimenting the person. When the time is up, the person will start complimenting you-saying every positive thing about you. Notice how you feel before and after the exercises.
Trying some of the activities above may help you build your self-esteem. Do some of the activities daily and find the one that you feel comfortable with. Practice the activities everyday. What are some of your own self-esteem activities that helps you to feel good about yourself?
Image taken from esteemedself.com