Bipolar I

Co-dependency and Mental Illness – Where do you weigh in on managing your child

Co-dependency crosses all lines of relationships.  Whether it is family, friends or lovers, co-dependency can be really scary as the vicious cyclical nature of it freezes an individual’s ability to move forward in life which disallows personal growth and independence.  When you become dependent on another person, or you get caught in-between total autonomy and co-dependency, that routine of dependency disallows you to break away and stand on your own two feet.  Let’s take a look at one relationship in particular:

Parent & Child

A lot of parents struggle with finding a balance to support their child, or cut them off.  When is it time to let go?  Do you stop financially supporting your child when he or she turns 18 years old and goes to college, or when they graduate college, or when they move out of the house?  What if they move back in the house; do you financially help them if they can’t find a job?  A lot of families are dealing with a generation of children that are moving back home.  For whatever reason that causes this occurrence, it presents itself a difficult situation for both the child and the parent.

Case in point, things get sticky when your child is mentally ill. 

Bipolar I

3 Tips for Handling Difficult Office Politics

Stuart Smalley: "You're good enough, smart enough, and doggone it, people like you...?" Ah... not always.

No matter what industry you are in, you are bound to come across office politics.  The word "politics" in and of itself connots a level of malarkey.  So, when you find yourself caught up in the BS of office politics here are three things to consider to rid yourself from potential strife:

1. Self Preservation

Try your best to stay away from people at work that give you a bad vibe.  If a co-worker doesn’t like you, you will feel it, either with passive aggressive tendencies or flat out rude behavior.  You don’t need to deal with someone else's issues so don't make them yours and do your best to physically and mentally ignore them and stay away as much as you can.

Bipolar I

The Holiday Party Survival Guide: 3 Tips to Consider

Every holiday season I find myself becoming more and more isolative.  And every holiday I know it is coming and do my best to manage it. 

Sometimes the challenge is to force myself to go to the holiday parties with a happy face and find a way to get through it.  You can’t miss Thanksgiving dinner, and even if you don’t want to go, you don’t want people to think you are depressed or not doing well.  When you are the person in the family with a mental illness, every now and then you feel the pressure to appear fine, when really inside you are not fine.  So, here are a few tips on how to handle those dreaded Holiday Parties:
The Holiday Party Survival Guide
Whether it is an office party or family function sometimes you have to force yourself to go to be politically correct or to avoid being a red flag and appear like you are in a depressed state.  Try and make things easy on yourself.  Here goes…

Coping Skills

Mixing Business with Pleasure: Where do you weigh in on office romances?

Don’t dip your pen in the company ink?  A well known cautionary tale to warn people not to engage in an office romance, however, there are a lot of people having office romances that turn into long term healthy relationships.  But we also hear or experience the horror stories as well.

So, where do you weigh in on the does and don’t of engaging in an office romance.  Some points to consider…  

Coping Skills

Are you in denial? Living in financial denial and dreading your mailbox

Denial can be one of the worst obstacles to overcome when it comes to achieving your personal happiness and ability to live a full honest life.

When you are not honest with yourself, you are living in a state of denial.

Here is one simple example to evaluate your level of denial:
There can be a lot of reasons why we don’t want to check our mail.   Whether you’re late on paying your bills, or are expecting a letter to see if you were admitted to your select graduate school, avoiding your mail is one form of denial. Here are three levels to consider.

Coping Skills

5 Tips on How to Find a Job

Our recent political debates focused heavily on the economy aka jobs.  There are some jobs that are out there, but some of us aren’t that great at finding them, or applying for them.

Perhaps we should be asking ourselves not where to find a job but how to find a job. Here are some tactics to consider in your efforts to solidify employment:

Coping Skills

Honey Boo Boo What? – Body Image, Weight and TLC (The Learning Channel)

TLC’s reality show, “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo” features a reality star with a refreshing look into weight gain and body image.  And it comes from a child named Honey Boo Boo.  

Honey Boo Boo is one of the only females in modern day society that is actually embracing her fat, full throttle, at the ripe young age of a seven-years-old.

If you haven't heard already, Honey Boo Boo is a reality star that got her fame from participating in beauty pageants.  She is a pioneer of loving herself despite her fat. One episode Ms. Boo Boo actually pulls out her stomach fat and says straight into the camera:
“The judges don’t know a good thing when they see it!”

Bipolar I

Grey’s Anatomy – Teaching Hospitals and Psych Wards

An average of ten million viewers tune into Grey’s Anatomy a week, and in a recent episode we saw a glimpse into what the producers and writers of this acclaimed series think about inpatient psych treatment.

Grey’s Anatomy Season 9 Episode 2:

“I said no more damn restraints.” 

“She doesn’t even belong on this floor.  She’s violent, uncommunicative.”

“She just hasn’t talked yet.”

“There is nothing physically wrong with her.  She belongs up in psych.”

“Ok, ok.  It’s time. It’s time to get up.  They are gonna take you upstairs.  They are gonna pump you with antipsychotics and you’re gonna go slap jawed and cookoo's nest.  And you’ll never be you again.  Christina, please.  I am begging you please.  You have to say something Christina, please.  Do you hear me?  Say something please.”

Yes, this is a TV show but having worked close with treatment teams of two Los Angeles County hospitals, I can say from real life experience that fiction has its hands in truth when it comes to inpatient psych wards. 

Bipolar I

Technology and the Cultural Divide – The Younger Generation Needs to Get Checked, like Now.

I went to the CAL/UCLA football game over the weekend.  I sat in the stands in the end zone by a bunch of other Bruin fans and witnessed what is unfortunately all too common in our age.

Teenage brats fueled by a hollow sense of intelligence from knowing the bare essentials of technology, which causes entitlement behaviors that parleys into them thinking they have all the answers.  They are at the forefront of technology and how to use it so, does that give them a right to disrespect their elders?

Bipolar I

4 Signs It’s Time to Pull the Plug On Your Relationship

You never know what goes on behind closed doors of a relationship.  I always keep that in mind when I see a friend or family member in a relationship that doesn’t seem right; a couple that doesn’t seem to be a good fit.  When I catch myself judging a relationship from the outside I remind myself that there is a relationship between a couple on the inside that I know nothing about.  Whenever I used to bring up problems I witnessed in a relationship with someone I cared about, often times it was always met with a negative response.  It turned into a bad idea and I learned the hard why when to keep my mouth shut.

Sharing your opinions on relationships with a friend may result in anger, hurt and unnecessary pain which can result in your friend slowly becoming withdrawn, isolated, and alone in their relationship.