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What Is Flatlining?

After being blocked and unblocked back and forth with my ex, I’ve reached a new desperate game-changing low.  Or high, depending on how you look at it. When you find yourself in a position where you are blocked from an ex, or a person you just started dating, or a person you have been in a relationship for awhile, that person has all the control. It’s a power play, so they can decide if they want to speak to you, or not. I’m not playing that game, so came up with my own rendition to better even the playing field.

It’s called flatlining.

I have previously written about the blocking game when dealing with an ex, which a lot of you had interesting insight and personal experience on, and now I’ve entered a new game where I’ve decided I am not going to participate in the block/unblock/block/unblock charade, but instead here’s what I do.

When I get a call from my ex I pick it up, then I put my phone down so that it’s not in ear shot of me so that I’m not tempted to talk, and wait for him to hang up. I don’t hear what he says, I don’t know what he says if anything at all.  I am sure it is very confusing for him on his end, cause I’m there, but I’m not there. Hello? Is anyone there? Or maybe he says nothing. Maybe he’s just testing to see if he is blocked – cause we all know what it sounds like on the phone when we are blocked.

Who knows. It’s something I’m trying out so that now I know if he tries to reach me cause he’s not blocked, yet he can’t talk to me cause technically I’m not on the phone, but appear to be, so although I pick up, I’m not present, hence I’ve coined it, “flatlining.”

You are dead to me, and I am dead to you. We’ll see how this flatlining experiment pans out. Yes, it’s also a game and a rendition of the blocking game, but since I have made the conscious decision to not partake in the blocking game I have now become a flatliner.

What Is Flatlining?

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough , Undressed, and I'm Not Playing.

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Loberg, E. (2020). What Is Flatlining?. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 24, 2020, from


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