I am learning as I go with social expectations and quite frankly some things are not ok, and need to be addressed. I went to my pharmacy to get my meds, canned tuna, and tampons – all necessities- and was standing in line when a guy behind me was not standing on the tape that the store put on the carpet to map out sex feet separation. He was right behind me. Then he coughed.
I didn’t want to turn around and breath in any bacteria should there be a problem, so I turned toward the side and moved forward which is a violation of the guy in front of me. He went up in line to the register fast, and I was left still tip toeing forward to stop the guy behind me.
Why didn’t I ring a bell, and put my hand up to this guy and say something? Is it because it’s not my job to dictate how we are supposed to abide my social expectations to stand on the tape on the floor and keep our distance? Is the store supposed to be policing the situation? I’d say yes to both. As a conscientious civilian I should say something. As a store owner or employee they should say something. Yet, often times I find myself stuck in similar situations and not sure what is in my rights or responsibility as a member of society. Then I find myself home afterwards washing myself down in the shower and angry that I was in that situation, I didn’t say anything, I know how to respond, and no one else addressed it either.
What ended up happening is the person behind me stepped up to the cashier and she rejected servicing him and asked him to move to another cashier. She heard the coughing and so was looking out for herself. So now he’s behind me, again, waiting to get checked out my the cashier servicing me. It’s just all bad and lacks major human decency and activating responsibility across the board.
Moving forward, the slightest move on anyones part to not do their part to be socially aware and responsible is going to hear from me. And I’d like to hope I’m not alone in this feat.