I thought I was done with the battle of blocking cause I made the definitive decision to stop playing games and quit participating in block, unblock, block, unblock, but now I am the one being blocked, unblock, block, unblocked and it’s exhausting, frustrating, rude, obnoxious, annoying, mean, childish, and flat out stupid. Those are all the reasons I decided to stop engaging in the blocking game ages ago, but how am I supposed to control someone on the other end from doing it?
This game has been going on with my ex for what feels like years. It is a form of control but also a display of lying and deceiving. I’ve recently figured why and when he chooses to block me – when he is with his girlfriend.
Last weekend he called me and didn’t leave a message, but I saw a missed call on my phone so called him back only to discover I was blocked. I didn’t leave a message then at like midnight he calls me back from what sounded like a bathroom or closet or hallway or something to let me know he would be in my area tomorrow and wanted to see if we could meet up. Why is he hiding in some isolated place? Cause he’s with his girlfriend and she is probably asleep in the next room. It’s so retarded. I thought we could be adults and work on a friendship. Anyway, I said I would be around and would call him in the morning. Next morning I call him knowing he is at work and of course – unblocked. It was so absurd I found myself making a joke about it, “Oh yippie! I’m unblocked!” What I really wanted to say is, “So now I know you block me when you are with your girlfriend you deny that you have, and unblock me when the coast is clear and she’s not around, oh ok!” That, however, didn’t come out of my mouth. I told him I was busy and couldn’t meet up with him when the truth is I was not busy and simply angry that I was in this blocking game that now I know is a way to gage if he is still with someone else. All this is so pathetic but, whether you are the one playing the game or someone on the other end is playing the game, I know I am not the only one out there that has fallen into this behavior.
Having said that, I had previously written about the blocking game, and there were a lot of people out there that had comments on their personal experiences with this charade. Most of the stories were sad. People were hurt and confused and after reading all the comments that people shared, I made the choice not to participate in the blocking game. Why am I going to subject myself to inevitable pain and an ongoing battle? However, if someone on the other end is doing it, there is nothing really you can do other than to ignore them and never call them. No one needs the psychological stress of calling someone to see if you are blocked or not. It’s not worth it. If that doesn’t work for you, then your only other option is to block them indefinitely. But if you decide to block them then that has to be it. There is no going back. You have to be ready to stand your ground cause if you don’t you will be back where you started – block, unblock, block, unblock – which can go on forever.