One can’t help but draw a correlation between modern day parenting, and the recent college admissions scandal. Today’s children more often times than not grow up running the show. In other words, parents find themselves negotiating with their loved ones versus asserting themselves like they more so did in the old days. This trend leaves us with a society of adolescent individuals that lack a strong work ethic, and often times demonstrate entitled behavior and it’s parlaying into their ability to stand on their owe two feet, and do the hard work that it takes to enter todays competitive colleges. It’s truly sad, and you can’t help but make the parents and children accountable for these circumstances.
Case and point, Lori Loughlin. Loughlin’s daughter attended my high school. I went to a private all girl high school in Los Angeles, CA. The pressure to excel and get straight A’s was heavy on my shoulders. I started to worry about getting into college starting freshman year which resulted in late nights of rigorous studying, multiple extra curricular activates, student counsel, community service, and jobs. You name it, I did it. I also played sports. After years of hard work I was fortunate to get recruited for volleyball, and ended up going to Columbia University. And you don’t just send a photo into the athletic department. The recruiting process begins freshman year. Coaches attend tournaments, track statistics, interview high school coaches to ascertain the attitude and athletic ability of the player. It is a rigorous long process so a total joke to think some photo shopped picture was an entrance ticket to a universities athletic team.
Having said that, the mere fact that Loughlin faked crew photos to get her daughters into USC makes me ill. But it makes sense when I think of my generation, and how I was raised, versus this generation, and how they were raised. When the kids lack discipline they inevitably have zero hard work ethic, and put themselves at a disadvantage to be capable of entering a prestigious college. But I am not putting all the blame on the parents. The young adults are also responsible for their behavior but it is not surprising that the media is not pointing a finger at the young adults involved in this scandal. Why are the parents getting all the blame, and how on earth is there any question that the kids had no knowledge of their parents illegal behavior? That’s just preposterous. And parents also need to start allowing their children to fail. We think of failure as such a horrible thing when it’s a part of life that gives us the opportunity to grow. When you fail you are forced to get up and work harder. Every failure is a chance to learn valuable lessons in life and honestly provides the platform for success. Not everyone deserves a trophy. Not every student is a star. Sound harsh but at this point we need to examine where the next generation is heading.
When a society cultivates an environment that lacks discipline and expectations, the results are inevitable and obvious. All parties involved in this recent scandal are at fault – the parents, their children, the universities involved, all the enablers and people in cahoots – the list is long and until we assert some ethics and academic expectations, we are at a societal loss. And sadly, morals, ethics, and honesty go straight out the door.